(Closed) as a guest, do you assume you can take home centerpieces?

posted 10 years ago in Decor
  • poll: As a guest, do you assume you can take home the centerpiece?

    yes - its expected that the guests get to take them

    no way - i would never take something unless i was told i could!

    other - explain

  • Post # 17
    2906 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I wouldnt because I would be so mad if someone did that at my wedding! Ugh. I just went to My bosses wedding on July 31st and everyone took all of the decorations. There was no more lights, candles, centerpieces etc. She was a little upset, and I would be too if it was me. 

    Post # 18
    115 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I am Portuguese. I’ve never been to a Portuguese wedding where the centerpieces WEREN’T being taken. It’s definitely a cultural thing. I know this is going to happen at my (also Portuguese) wedding. I’m going to have to hide one in an attempt to keep my handiwork.


    I can’t complain, though. I’ve gotten some really nice vases this way. Tongue out

    Post # 19
    3260 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think it’s expected because 99% of the weddings I’ve been to or heard of, they have been given away. That being said I would never assume or take anything unless told.

    Post # 20
    12326 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    No, I dont assume they are, but every wedding I have been to, it was allowed. 

    Post # 21
    3605 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    i have never ever looked at a centrepiece and considered taking it home but my BIL’s side of the family will steal anything not nailed down.  at my nephews wedding i was on vase patrol because they were rented from the florist and people were hiding centrepieces under the tables so they could take them home – first wedding i had to go to where i practically had to frisk people on the way out

    Post # 22
    1374 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Oh I know a way around this problem. This might help. Maybe. But u know how there are announcements that you can take the centerpieces home?? Well just do a reverse announcement!! You could have an announcement saying that the centepieces are NOT for taking home.

    Personally Im planning on telling people that they can take it all. Plus most of the things we will have there will be disposable. I want a quick cleanup!!! lol I have a feeling we will be there till the end and my Fiance and I will be so tired, a quick cleanup will be a blessing!

    Bees either way do what u feel comfortable doing. If that one woman wnats to use those special pieces, I wouldnt, but if u do, make several announcements to NOT take them.

    Post # 23
    6377 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Never. I actually think its amazingly rude for guests to take it upon themselves to snag a centerpiece without being told to. I would be very angry if our guests took our centerpieces since I plan to repurpose or sell most of my stuff afterwards.

    Post # 24
    1935 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Nope they only time we’ve taken anything is when we were told we could by the hosts. 

    Post # 25
    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I didnt even think about this im using my late grandmas milk glass (that I had to argue with family to even be able to get) And if someone took that I woud cry my eyes out… and spend my whole honeymoon trying to figure out who took it and how im going to get it back…

    Post # 27
    711 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    BITD I went to weddings where their was a ticket or somesuch under 1 guest per table’s plate that meant the “won” the centerpiece…which BITD would have always been fresh flowers that would be going bad shortly.

    Now with centerpieces of all sorts of spendy and resellable types and craigslist on which to seel them, I don’t think this applies any more.  

    If a relative loved one of my centerpieces enough to take it, I’d be flattered, honestly.  My SIL took some of our rocks (honest…just rocks) and put them in her garden…carted them 1000 miles back to her place.  I’m glad that she liked them that much.

    But, personally I’d be worried about “breaking up the set” for resale if I was at someone else’s wedding.

    Post # 28
    30398 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    There have been countless posts here on WeddingBee where members mentioned that it is commonplace in their circle for guests to take centerpieces home at the end of the evening.


    Post # 31
    265 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    In our families, yes, but only if we were at another family members wedding. Mine tend to all have more DIY and its a unwritten rule unless your told not to. DHs family always provide the flowers for the weddings, and if the centerpeices are floral you can take the arrangement, but they recycle the container to the farm to use.


    Other peoples NO! Unless someone tells me to.

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