(Closed) as a guest, do you assume you can take home centerpieces?

posted 10 years ago in Decor
  • poll: As a guest, do you assume you can take home the centerpiece?

    yes - its expected that the guests get to take them

    no way - i would never take something unless i was told i could!

    other - explain

  • Post # 32
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I only take the centerpiece when they say to. I’ve been to weddings where they give them away with a game and others where they don’t mention them. I only got one where it was given away, I wouldn’t think to take it if it wasn’t offered. I really really hope people don’t take ours, they’re rented

    Post # 33
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

    I would never assume that I could just take anything, especially decorations at a wedding. Recently, I was at a wedding that had a sort of game for each table, and the winner got to take home the centerpiece. That was an interesting twist, though the guy who won was supremely confused why he had to take the centerpiece home. I don’t think he’d ever heard of anyone wanting the centerpiece–and I’m kind of with him on that!

    Post # 34
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I know, back in the day, people did this. I remember my mom walking out of a few weddings with some awful cheezy centerpieces and her acting like someone had given her an Oscar or something. Now, so many people rent centerpieces or have them done professionally, I would never assume to take anything, except the favors home. I like the idea of drawing names for centerpieces if you are giving them away. Personally, I will probably try to sell mine after our wedding, so I would not like it if people took them.

    Post # 35
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    Buzzing bee

    I’m Lebanese (middle eastern) and every middle-eastern wedding is a “steal the centerpiece” type affair. But really, aint no thang, Id rather someone took the *floral* centerpiece home and enjoyed it rather than the flowers rotting and going to waste after only a few hours. Obviously they’re not going to take the hall’s vase. DIY centerpieces are different though, if it was votive candles or mason jars, I wouldnt want someone taking something I could potentially use/resell. But since Middle-Eastern weddings are usually so large, theres rarely ever DIY centerpieces.

     

    EDIT: totally just found a picture of this cute old lady taking centerpiece flowers at my brother’s wedding. 

     

    Post # 36
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I went to a shower once where one of the prizes for one of the games is that you got the centerpiece from your table. Other than that, no. I’ve heard of it, but it’s never something I’ve seen done.

    I think it’s mostly when the centerpieces are mainly fresh flowers–like, ‘bride and groom are off on their honeymoon and we have 18 beautiful bouquets of fresh flowers, who’d like one?’ I could understand that.

    Post # 37
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I have before but having not ever planned a weddding I didn’t know that they were rented and stuff like that so I no longer do it.  I plan on selling mine so no one better think about taking them

    Post # 38
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldn’t take peoples centerpieces just because I know a lot of people resell their things. I thought I’d give mine away but now I think I might sell the branches afterwards because we’ll be looking for a house when we come home from the honeymoon…

    If we decide to just give them away though we’ll let the people know and have a ticket under the chair of the person who wins it. (if they want it… that is.)

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee

    So, it’s aparetnly normal where I come from as well. I don’t even think it’s a cultural thing as I have seen it at all weddings. I think it stems from the fact that the flowers are going to die so someone may as well take them home instead of throwing them out. I can’T remember ever being at a wedding where the centerpieces did not leave with guests. I had actually forgot this was the norm but my mom casually asked how we were going to give the centerpieces away and I was like oh we’re not doing that. Then the DJ asked if we wanted him to do a centerpiece game. We ended up letting him do a name that tune type game to determine who gets the centerpieces and the guests had so much fun. The photos are great (I was changing into my reception dress when he did it so it was also a nice way to entertain guests while I was MIA). Ultimately our hydrangeas were startign to wilt by the end of the night but guests took home the vases as well and since we bought them it was NBD. No one took other deco though. I do remember there being 2 centerpieces still hanging around right before the last song and I tried to give them away only to find out they belonged to someone so everyone who “won” a centerpiece took it. I guess people just feel special to have won something. I tend to not want to win because I don’t wan to carry the thing home.

    Post # 40
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    Honey bee

    People took some of the flowers from the centerpieces, but only after they asked if they could. I’ve never been to a wedding where you were allowed to take the whole thing, and I would never assume I was allowed to.

    Post # 41
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    At many weddings I’ve been to in Greece, the hosts have encouraged us to take home the flowers. However, I would never do so unless I was actually told it was OK to take them.

    We are having half high half low centerpieces at our place and I assume people aren’t going to try to take the high ones…my florist said they can’t because she needs her tall vases back! lol

    Post # 42
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I would consider that stealing, unless the bride and groom specifically stated to take them!

    Post # 43
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Most of the weddings I’ve been to have either given the centerpieces away or raffled them off to someone at the table.  So when I made mine I made them with the intention of guests taking them.  Whatever was left was going to be donated to my wedding planner anyway as we don’t have the room or need for them in our house.  

    As for whether I would assume that they were there to take?  Nope.  I don’t like to assume anything.  It tends to make an ‘@ss out of u and me’ as the saying goes.  🙂

    Post # 44
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    People better not take ours! We have rented the hurricanes, so they don’t belong to us!

    Post # 45
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I grew up in Northwestern Kansas, it was pretty common for guests to take the centerpeices home. (But people tend to wait until they are told “take a centerpeice” before they grab one and walk out!)

    For my wedding reception, I bought potted orchids, so I told people to take them because I didn’t need 15 orchids!

    Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    It’s standard where I’m from that you can take home floral centerpieces…if it were something like a candelabra I think that would be different!

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