(Closed) as a guest, do you assume you can take home centerpieces?

posted 10 years ago in Decor
  • poll: As a guest, do you assume you can take home the centerpiece?

    yes - its expected that the guests get to take them

    no way - i would never take something unless i was told i could!

    other - explain

  • Post # 47
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @dynamic_duo: I’m pretty sure that if someone takes my centerpieces I’m going to be mad.

    Post # 48
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    Buzzing bee

    Never been to a wedding where you weren’t allowed to take the centrepiece. 

    Post # 49
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    Sugar bee

    Most weddings Ive been to the DJ will have some type of raffle so that a guest at each table takes it home.

    I cant imagine just picking up a big vase of flowers and walking out of a wedding!

    Post # 50
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I would not automatically assume it is ok to take them, however, most weddings I’ve been at they have been given away to whomever was left standing at the end of the night.  I would wait until a Significant Person (bride, maid of honor, mother of bride, bridal party, etc…usually female though!), told us to take them before doing so.  Usually at that point they’re trying to get you to take more than one.

    At one wedding I went to the centerpieces were two giant loafs of bread, one sitting on top of the other.  We were even unsure if we could eat it (as our bread basket equivalent) until we saw some other table doing so.  Great idea and tasty 🙂  The couple made them theirselves.

    Post # 51
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @Earlybride:I was at a wedding where they made this announcement and it was fine. The centerpeices were rented so they wanted to make sure that they remained in the hall!

    I never take them unless I am told to and there is usually some sort of game to go with it to determine who gets to take it.

    Post # 52
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    At most of the weddings I go to, someone is walking around nearly forcing someone to take the centerpieces home.  Occasionally there is some game around it.  It’s almost like a hot potato though – no one ever is really all that into it.  I am just assuming that most of my centerpieces will be taken by guests – so I’m not getting anythign too crazy.  I might even do potted plants with signs saying that they can take them home along with care instructions.

    Post # 53
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ve never been to a wedding where people took centerpeices home with them and I would never assume that I could just take them either!

    Post # 54
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Hmm.. I got a flower out of one of the centerpieces (only one, mind you!)–but that was after the groom said it was alright.

    Post # 55
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I personally wouldn’t if I were a guest at a wedding, unless I was told I could. For my own wedding, I’d love for guests to take them as it would be less clean up for my crew! Although…I’d like one left for me to keep. 🙂

    Post # 56
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - county fairgrounds

    I don’t think it’s necessarily a thing for any one or two specific cultures because my family is from all over the US and I’ve never been to a wedding where people didn’t take the centerpieces and favors that people left home. I don’t think there should be any issue with telling family and friends not to take them if you don’t want them to bc if theyre close enough to you to be at your wedding shouldn’t they be close enough to you to not think you’re saying they’d steal everything nailed down if they got the chance. they’re the people that love you, they’ll understand that it’s rented or it’s something sentimental or w/e if you told them

    Post # 57
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I’d think people might assume they can take flowers, since those are perishable, but not like… actual centerpieces you made

    Post # 58
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    Helper bee

    lol, where i’m from people take the whole thing if they want..vase and all. this is considered normal and when people don’t want them, i think people assume they didn’t like them…

    Post # 59
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I am the queen of winning centerpieces. Every single wedding I’ve been to where there was a game/giveaway I win the centerpiece. It’s always the whole thing (vase & flowers) but I would never take it unless it was clear that we’re supposed to take them. 

    Post # 60
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Wow! I’m not really “from” anywhere being raised in a military family. So, I would just consider this tactless point blank!

    Post # 61
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I just found out that it’s in my FI’s culture to take the centerpieces home at weddings. Here’s the problem: we bought all of the crystal vases to re-sell afterwards! ACK! We are actually going to have an announcement to tell people to only take only the flowers and not the vases. The things we learn when we least expect it.

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