(Closed) As a guest do you prefer a buffet or a plated dinner?

posted 12 years ago in Reception
  • poll: As a guest do you prefer a buffet or a plated dinner


    Plated dinner

  • Post # 47
    40 posts
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I’m debating between buffet and plated as well. Most weddings where I come from are buffet, and the two major problems I have is

    1.It’s a time drain for everyone to get up and get their food, especially if there is a first course buffet and then a second course buffet and finally the cake! It takes time away from the festivities.

    2. It never feels like everyone in the room is sitting and eating together. There’s no real feeling of peace and togetherness, because there’s always one table that’s up and getting their food, and by the time the final table has gotten their food, the first few tables are done and either going back for more or just sitting there with a plate in front of them until everyone is done.

    I prefer plated, but most of my family seems to prefer buffet for the mingling reasons and the ‘more options for people reason’ (we’re splitting the costs 50-50, so my parents and us have ‘equal’ say), so we’re still hedging.

    Let us know what you decided and why you came to that decision please! I’d love to know!

    Post # 48
    536 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I’d say plated!  I just like the idea of having the food served to my guests!  But having said that..I don’t mind a buffet dinner either!  Whichever is in your budget is the way to go!  As long as the food is good, either way is great!

    Post # 49
    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I appreciate being fed and not having to make dinner that night, so I don’t really mind if its plated or buffet!

    Post # 50
    3282 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    It really depends on the type and size of event, but buffet is what I voted for because it is what we had and people loved it =)

    (btw, ours was small ~60 guests)

    Post # 51
    1525 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I voted for buffet because I too am a picky eater and I may want more mashed potatoes than I do asparagus l=)

    Post # 52
    689 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    hmm i prefer a plated, just because sometimes the buffet line can get long depending on how many guests you have…

    Post # 53
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    I’ve only ever seen buffet setups at weddings and wedding-related events. I like those just fine and have never had a problem with them as a guest. Maybe I’m incredibly low-maintenance, but I never expect anything at a wedding beyond the couple’s hospitality, whatever that may include. Basically, I don’t even expect to be fed a full meal since I’ve only ever seen that one time out of countless weddings I’ve attended. In general when dining out (I realize that is not exactly the same as a wedding), I tend to prefer plated meals, though I don’t have any issues with buffets. Then again, in the case of dining out, you get to pick everything that goes on your plate but with a banquet setting, you don’t get that option. I hate family style with a passion unless I am at a Chinese restaurant. Reason being is that the platters are very heavy and awkward to hold without spilling on yourself. Also, if you want centerpieces on your table, they don’t work with family style since there is no room left on the table. Buffet allows people to pick and choose what they want and leave behind what they don’t or can’t eat for any reason. If someone is still hungry, they can go back and fill their plates again. In the end, none is right or wrong and your guests should quietly accept whatever you decide to choose. Also, if there is no kitchen on-site as is the case with alot of venues, buffet is the best choice.

    Post # 54
    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Plated! As a person with MANY food allergies, I can quietly pull aside a waiter and make sure my food is not contaminated by the foods that cause me to have an allergic reaction. At a buffet, I would have to make a bigger scene, so then I choose not to eat at all which looks rude, etc. etc.

    Post # 55
    2194 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: January 2013

    plated. mad classy. Wink


    i just love the feeling of sitting down to a delicious six-course meal and being waited on hand and foot (this comes from someone who WAS a server for years and will probably head back into fine dining serving again once i move to the city!). we are DEFINITELY doing a plated meal for our wedding.

    Post # 56
    5262 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I honestly think both are great. I prefer buffet when attending others’ weddings, simply because every single plated wedding I have been to has not had a vegetarian option. We’re hoping to do family style, but otherwise we’ll do plated with two entree options. 

    Post # 57
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I said plated because I don’t like lines.  And I really don’t like being in the back of a line.  It’s hard to blame anyone when you’re served a plated dinner last, but for some reason I get grouchy when I have to wait in line for my food.  LOL

    Post # 58
    397 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I prefer buffet, because then I only get what I want, and I don’t feel bad about wasting food, if I have some left over.  

    Post # 59
    7772 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I said plated. Here were my pros and cons:


    1. Cheaper. I’m not ashamed of being a bride on a budget.

    2. It feels classier. We are doing our reception in a historic hotel and I feel like a buffet line would really cheapen the glam Old Hollywood ambiance of the room.

    3. Less messy. Buffet line always seem like a HUGE mess at any wedding I’ve been to.

    4. Buffets seem unsanitary. I’m really anal about my food. I hate the idea of a million people eating off of the food before I get to it. I hate knowing that a bunch of hands have been near my plates, silverware and food. I love the idea of one neat plate with just my food on it. Touched only by the chef and me.

    5. It’s cheaper.

    6. Faster. Buffet lines take forever and seem to always get backed up.



    1. Less food. I didn’t see this as a huge deal though, since we are doing a dessert/candy/cookie buffet and then cookies and milk as a “late night snack”. I don’t think people will leave hungry.

    2. Less variety. I’m a super picky eater, so I understand this one.


    Post # 60
    972 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Im doing family style, i love how the food is in the middle of the table and its unlimited as well

    Post # 61
    3124 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    yeah you need an “either / or” – As long as the food is good, i don’t care where it comes from.

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