(Closed) As a guest, how do you feel about readings at a ceremony?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Reading ata ceremony - How do you feel?
    I enjoy readings and will have them at my ceremony : (75 votes)
    34 %
    I enjoy reading but they will not be at my ceremony : (4 votes)
    2 %
    I don't care eaither way : (35 votes)
    16 %
    I find them borning and they prolong a ceremony : (101 votes)
    46 %
    they really add something special for me as a guest : (5 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 17
    10452 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We won’t be having any either. We want a quick and legal ceremony, that’s it!

    Post # 18
    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We’re having a non-religious ceremony with readings. I cannot stand bible readings, it brings me back to being bored in churand lol but I totally get why some people want them but as a guest I hate it. As a guest I love other sorts of readings though. It gives the ceremony personality!

    Post # 19
    1447 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I like readings that are relevant.  I went to one wedding where the bride picked Dickenson’s “Hope is the thing with Feathers”.  While it’s a lovely poem, it didn’t seem to fit the wedding or the couple getting married.  (At least to me!)

    @newname_99:  No Psalms?  ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 20
    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I think if you find the perfect reading, it is wonderful to include. I don’t think they should be a part of a ceremony because you feel obligated to include people or to make it longer.


    Our ceremony isn’t going to have readings. I love what we have and it is short and to the point. If we found something perfect we’d reconsider, but unless the perfect passage presents (yay alliteration!) itself, we don’t feel the need.

    Post # 21
    2295 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    Keep them short and meaningful. I don’t love the ones that EVERYONE uses (love is patient, love is kind – that sort of thing), but I understand why they get used as the standard, so I’m good with it.

    We’re doing one reading that is about 3 – 4 paragraphs. We’re having his grandma, who was married for a very long time until her husband passed, do the reading.

    I don’t like it when people have 16 year olds (or other very young people) do readings for some reason. I get that they want to include their cousin or friend, but it feels weird to me being given “advice” (even in the form of a reading) from someone who isn’t married. I was at a wedding once where this girl got up in this HOOCHIE short strapless dress to do a reading – in a Catholic Church! I couldn’t believe it.

    They can be a nice way to add a little something to a ceremony, especially one that is already very short (like ours).

    Post # 22
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I want a relatively quick ceremony, but I would still like at least one reading. Nothing religious, but something short and sweet and unique. Who knows if I’ll find anything!

    Post # 23
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @littlemisst08:  thanks that would be great


    @Anise:  ooh i dont know! do i need to have psalms? non- catholic here organising a catholic wedding (mixed marriage – catholic and christian) and the priest really hasnt given me much guidance

    Post # 24
    3765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @newname_99:  Do you have a Together For Life booklet? That will give you a ton of guidance.

    You do need to pick psalms, however if they are going to be sung then your musician will help you with it.

    Post # 25
    252 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @PinkAndPearls2013:  +1

    I so feel like this, which is the main reason I feel readings are important. Well, plus the fact that I want a full Catholic mass. ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 26
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @mrsSonthebeach:  “I’d much rather sit through a reading or two than a unity ceremony, that’s for sure.”

    Oh God, yes. I hate most readings but I’ll take a reading over a sand ceremony any day.

    Post # 27
    909 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @everridiculous:  we are having a full Catholic mass as well ๐Ÿ™‚ We really want to make the most out of the actual wedding. That’s only going to happen once. We will have the rest of our lives to party and celebrate our lives together!

    Post # 28
    4131 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    i like them as long as they are short and there arent’ too many (2 is good). We will likely have 2 but they will be non-religious. I’m an English teacher and a Shakespeare geek so one will be from him, the other, I have no idea on yet.

    Post # 29
    7977 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    @PinkAndPearls2013:  Absolutely. The ceremony is the main bit for me! I’ve been to a few weddings where the ceremony was about 5 minutes long, and I just think “is that it? How rubbish was that!”

    Post # 30
    1083 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I went to a wedding a few weeks ago and I don’t think I paid any attention to the readings. Our ceremony is short and sweet, and we have our choice of two readings. I’ll probably include them, but I want them to be meaningful and non-religious.

    Post # 31
    4305 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Snoozer.  I feel bad for saying this, but at my Grandma’s catholic funeral, I passed out.  Granted, I was 13 and would never do that now, but holy (no pun intended) smokes. 


    @Rachel631:  This is one of the main reasons I eloped.  I did not want a ceremony more than like, 5 minutes haha ๐Ÿ™‚

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