As a guest on her period in an all men's house…what to do?

posted 9 months ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - USA

lauralaura123 :  Just wrap it in toilet paper and put in the bathroom trash bin. Pretty sure all grown men know that women get periods. It took me some time to not be embarrassed too, but over time I just accepted it as part of life and got over it. You gotta do what you gotta do! 

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I was in a then-single guy friend’s house but saw that his toilet bin was totally empty and didn’t have a bin liner, so I wrapped the used tampon up in toilet paper and threw it in the main bin. I took it out of the bathroom with me but didn’t make a big deal of it. The friends either didn’t notice, or noticed but didn’t ask. Had they asked I wouldn’t be embarrassed. Usually when the topic comes up I remind the boys how lucky they are to not have to deal with it personally every 28 days or so!

Post # 18
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Helper bee

lauralaura123 :  Whether I’m in a house of women or men I wrap the pad or tampon in the wrapper and then wrap that in toilet paper or Kleenex tissues and place it in the bathroom garbage. I then cover with a couple of Kleenex or pieces of toilet paper. Men especially wont notice the pad or tampon under Kleenex.

 

ETA: If no trash bag in the bathroom I’d just take it to the main bin. If you’re really embarrassed you can stick it in your pocket or hide it under your shirt (wrapped obviously) while walking to the main trash. I agree that after being around guys enough you wont be embarrassed. I still just do it out of courtesy. Nobody (man or woman) really wants to open a bin and see / smell a couple days worth of used pads. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Are you ashamed they might discover you had the gall to menstruate in their presence? It’s an involuntary bodily function and nothing to be ashamed of. Wrap it up and throw it out; it’s not a big deal.

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Firstly I wouldn’t be staying at anyone’s home who I wasn’t close enough to for me to be a bit uncomfortable about it. Secondly like every other person has said, wrap it up and throw it in the bin, no one roots through their bathroom rubbish

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ll just add that my parents’ dog loves used feminine items and dugs them out of the trash if it’s not tightly closed. The dog shreds them and strews pieces throughout the house. So gross. So if your hosts have dogs I’d be mindful that some find those items appealing and keep that in mind when discarding things 🙂

Post # 22
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Sugar bee

I use a cup so I now don’t have to worry about this issue, but when I didn’t wear that I would just wrap the tampon in tp and throw it in the trash.

 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Menstrual cups are now my preference as there is no waste, plus my periods are lighter and less painful since ditching tampons and pads 

Post # 24
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Worker bee

I usually wrap it up in tissue paper and put it in the bin.

If the bins overflowing or full (had this a few time at male friend’s houses), then usually I wrap it up and put it in my bag to then put in a different bin.

I think if you’re staying somewhere longer than 1 night then bring a little plastic bag with you to dispose them in unless you’re cool with emptying their bin (mostly because I think it’s polite as a house guest to empty a bin if you’re the one filling them up, regardless of the nature of the rubbish).

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I haven’t had to think about this in years, thanks to the menstrual cup. But just roll up the pad or wrap the tampon in toilet paper. Keep in mind that you should never be embarrassed to be on your period! This is not something we have to hide!

That said, in high school I kept a ziplock bag in my purse when I was on my period, and if I was at someone’s house I would put the used tampon in the bag, and then throw it away when I got home. Not recommending that – it’s more of a silly/embarrassing story for me. I would always talk so openly about my period, and chances are the person I was with knew I was on my period. Yet something about the idea of them seeing my pad/tampon freaked me out.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

I wouldn’t even think about this. Wrap it in the liner/toilet paper and put it in the garbage. You don’t need to empty it after…there’s nothing to hide. No one is going to look through their bathroom garbage and even if they did, who cares? All women get their period, men know this. 

Post # 27
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Busy bee

I would wrap as others have said and maybe even use a scented nappy/diaper plastic rubbish bag to wrap again. If they don’t have a bin in the bathroom I would throw it in the outside rubbish bin, I could never throw it in a kitchen bin in my own house or anyone else’s! I’m also a menstrual cup convert though, they are the best!

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper

Stiletto13 :  I was just about to post the same–never put these things in an open garbage can if there are pets, especially dogs, in the house. Having the dog shred your neatly wrapped package in the middle of the living room–now that’s embarrassing and a dog swallowing a tampon results in a trip to the emergency vet.

Post # 29
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Busy bee

To be honest I might just opt for the outside rubbish bin even if they had one in the bathroom. If you’ve wrapped it in the diaper/nappy bag you could even keep it in your handbag until you go outside. I’m like you and would feel funny leaving period blood in someone’s household bin.

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

Put it wrapped up in the bathroom bin where the used condoms are. No one wants to look through that bin. I use a menstrual cup but I wouldn’t really want to walk outside to put stuff in a bin inviting more questions. 

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