Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
So I’m throwing a baby shower for one of my best friends. Her guest list for the shower is quite large (about 60 people, co-ed), so I feel like this may need a bit more planing and such than I was intending on. I need to decide where to focus my energy and resources, so I thought I’d let the hive guide me. When you attend a baby shower, what makes it enjoyable for you? What are your thoughts on games? Any that you prefer or strongly dislike? What parts of the decorations do you actually notice? Any special touches that you would recommend? How would you feel about getting a sapling as a favor to plant when you get home (it’s a treetop themed shower)?
Post # 3
seriously…the food and mimosas and chatting with my friends.
Post # 4
I’m planning the same kind and size, and my main focus is the food, especially since the men will be there. The decorations are really one of the things only the women will notice anyway, so to make it more like a shower and not just a regular party, we’re making some great centerpieces for the tables.
I always hate the stupid party games, as do most of the women that are coming. Not sure if we’ll have any or not, since it’s yet to be decided.
I think you have to know your crowd to decide whether or not the saplings would even be taken. We’re probably having edible favors since they are always a hit.
Post # 5
The food and creativity of it. Watching her open presents is fun too but only cause I like seeing what all the baby is getting. The games are annoying.
Post # 6
I like the food, and watching the presents get opened. I’ve never been a fan of the games, though I did go to one where we played actual games (like with dice and stuff) that was pretty fun, it was tournament style so you met everyone at the shower and there were prizes. I cannot remember the name of the game we were playing though.
Post # 7
Drinks, Food & the Mommy socializing & opening gifts.
60 Guests… Yikes !!
Not half as bad tho if the guys are all gonna go off elsewhere (backyard) for the majority of the event.
From an Etiquette POV, Showers are meant to be intimate affairs… 20 to 25 at the max… less is even better.
This is BIG, and will be a lot for you the Hostess to manage.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@phillybride61513: This may sound ignorant, but people serve alcohol at a baby shower? Is that common?
@ItWasntMe: May I ask what kind of food you plan to serve? Are you planning to have it catered? If not, any thoughts on how to keep hot food hot and cold food cold and everything replenished for that large of a group? I was originally thinking more of a brunch time and menu with quiche, finger sandwiches, etc. for a small group of 20ish. But when she said that she wanted co-ed with that many people, I tossed those thoughts out immediately. These guys will not stand for quiche and “chick food”. LOL I think I am going to grow the flowers for the centerpieces in my garden. I’m thinking masses of baby’s breath in metal cans and mason jars, lots of burlap table coverings, and a muted earthy color pallette. The thing is that I don’t want to spend a lot because that would negatively impact my financial goals. But just finding a place to fit 50ish people, and then keeping them supplied with food and drinks is going to run me at least $1000. I do like the idea of a blindfolded diapering race…. especially if we get the guys to see who can properly diaper a baby doll the fastest while blindfolded. That could be highly entertaining.
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
@Eckle: I like that idea, and it would really fit. The Daddy-to-be loves playing board games and such. he’s a big kid, in the very best way. Having something like that for the guys to do could be a good way to keep them entertained.
@This Time Round: I know. When she told me the guest list count, my jaw nearly hit the floor. This shower will be twice as big as my own wedding! I’m an “intimate gathering” sort of lady. I love hosting manageable size groups. This is giving me anxiety already, and it’s not until the end of the summer. But I feel like I need to get on the ball now to at least secure a venue and a caterer. I just don’t feel like my home can comfortable hold that many people, or that I can successfully cook for and serve 50.
Post # 10
@lovekiss: At every baby shower I’ve been to (about 8-10 over the years), there was booze. I’ve attended showers down here in Atlanta and all over PA/NJ. Usually they have a cute non alcoholic mocktail for the mom.
Post # 11
@lovekiss: My SIL has offered her house, (since ours will be on the market),so given the fact that we regularly have 30+ for Holidays when she hosts them, she has the setup down pat. The women will be inside for the gift opening, and the food will be in a seperate room for people to eat when they want. She has an open layout, but one room is adjacent their patio and yard, and we set up a banquet table and use chafing dishes and large platters for all the food in there. She has a large covered patio and large yard, so we may have some things set up for the men to do if they want, but they’ll probably just eat and drink. (and yes,we’ll have alcohol) We haven’t decided on catering or not yet, as my brother is an excellent cook and likes to show off his culinary talents. We haven’t planned the menu yet, but it will be a variety of things so everyone can find something they like. I’m not planning on the grill being used, but that may happen too.
The men will be outside (I’m sure), since they aren’t all that interested in baby things anyway (with the exception of the Dad), but will be pretty much entertaining themselves (and the kids). I always feel bad taking up someone’s Sunday for any kind of shower, especially in the summer when people want to be at the beach. We thought this would be something they wouldn’t mind, but the male half may decline coming anyway. We’re giving them an option, so we’ll see how it goes.
In actuality, the women portion is 32 (and some will decline for one reason or another), so we’re planning it just like the bridal shower (same number invited, and most of the same people). That was held in a restaurant, and it seemed pretty rushed and impersonal in the end. Thought we’d go back to the older way of having a home shower this time.
Post # 12
TO @lovekiss: lo, you are a good friend… I wouldn’t be keen to host 60… it can be pricey if you can’t do it at home.
And what exactly are the guys supposed to be doing? Trust me they’ll be bored, this IS NOT like a Couples Wedding Shower… this is waaaay more girlie.
Lol, see in my mind’s eye, the guys would be outside hanging out, having beers and junk food (peanuts, pretzels, chips). I might even put a Tv out there (sports gotta be on somewhere). And then get them all to pitch in with the food & BBQ up something, even if it was just hotdogs, sausage on a bun or hamburgers.
Have some nice toppings, a couple of salads, paper plates and plastic utensils… pretty napkins you are done !!
Girls only… I’d go the all girlie / traditional route… chips & salsa / layered dip… pumpernikle spinach bowl… cheese & crackers… veggies & dip… pickles.. maybe a salad… finger sandwiches. And for dessert any of the following: Cake & Ice Cream, Fancy Squares (can be bought), Iced Baby Theme Cookies (home made) or even just Fruit & a Chocolate Fondue.
Not much to keep too hot (fondue) or too cold (ice cream) in this scenario so easier to manage.
As for the drink Question. I think every shower I’ve ever been to had at least a Spiked & Non-Spiked Punch or a Wine option. And certainly Tea & Coffee too.
Hope this helps,
Post # 14
@ItWasntMe: Wow, I’ve never been to a baby shower with that many guests! I like the socializing aspect of the shower… Eat some food, have a couple of drinks and chat with friends and family!
I hate the games. Hate. Especially when they force you to play a game that singles you out and makes you look dumb. A lot of people seem to enjoy them, but I just don’t see the fun!
Post # 15
My MOH’s baby shower (next weekend) is also co-ed and the guest list is at 100…yeah you read that right. I about crapped my pants when her mother told me that. She claims that only about 50 ppl should show up but damn, that’s still a lot of people.
Anyways, my favorite parts of baby showers are the food, drinks (booze lol), and the “prizes”. My SIL had a baby shower in Feb. and instead of all the stupid games, they did drawings every 10-15 minutes and the person who’s name got picked out of the basket got to pick a gift card. Mingling with everyone is also nice. I don’t really like the opening of the gifts mainly because everyone who has a kid likes to chime in and say things like “oh, you just want until *baby* does that” or “Oh, you’ll need those breast pads”…but that’s probably because I’m not anywhere close to having children so that kind of stuff is just annoying to me. But this is obviously going to occur at a baby shower so I just smile, drown it out, and drink my wine lol.
Post # 16
@This Time Round: I don’t agree that guys are necessarily going to be bored. A baby shower is just a party for parents-to-be. I long for the day when fatherhood is anticipated and celebrated as much as motherhood, bnut hey, that’s another topic; don’t get me started on gender issues. 🙂
@lovekiss: You are really nice to host a party for 60 people. When my friend offered to host a shower for me, I invited 8 people, because I was conscious of her budget! Anyway, for me, the best baby showers are relaxed, have good food (mimosas are nice but totally optional), and don’t spend too long on the gift-opening, esp with 60 people. It can get pretty boring.