Post # 1
I’m looking for the good, the bad, and the ugly.
As I’m trying to tie up some loose ends with all the little details of the wedding, I’m really trying to debate what’s worth it and what’s not worth the headache. As a guest, what do you remember most? Is it the food? The booze? The paper cranes hanging behind the sweetheart table?
For me, I always remember the food and the music. The weddings that have left a bad taste in my mouth were always the ones with cold food or a lackluster DJ. Because of this, I searched long and hard for a DJ that was fun, upbeat, had stellar reviews, and overall just seemed like a great time! We also splurged on the food and tried to pick a menu that was yummy and appealing on as many different dietary restrictions there may be.
What do you remember most about weddings?
Post # 2
Food and music definitely. I don’t drink but all of my friends do and alcohol is very important to them as well.
Post # 3
I have this fight with myself all the time. I doubt the guests are going to notice the effort I put into the centrepieces, along with the themed table numbers, matching the invites to the colour theme, etc, I know I will. And I’m happy, for the most part, to do it all.
Food. And general “atmosphere”. Were the people I sat with nice? Did I have fun dancing? Did it look like everyone was having a good time?
And how moved I was by the ceremony.
As a “normal” guest, I’m sure I wouldn’t notice all the small things. As a “preparing for my own wedding” guest, I noticed everything. 🙂
Post # 4
Food, music, alcohol, atmosphere. I went to a wedding a while ago that had no heating on a freezing cold night. That overshadowed a lot of the good stuff because I was soooo cold!
Post # 5
Food, beverages, if people were kind.
I’ve been to a few weddings where the bride or other guests were just acting a complete fool out of stress. Your centerpieces looking a little droopy is NOT that deep…really.
Post # 6
The food definitely. The booze only if it was terrible (and if it’s free, it’s hard to be terrible). I generally don’t remember the decorations or what the cake looked like or what the centerpieces were. I remember how well the ceremony and reception flowed. I think the biggest thing that stands out to me is how well thought out the whole evening is. I recently went to a wedding where no consideration was given to the guests. The ceremony was on the grounds of a large historic building. The grounds are huge, and there were no signs leading to the ceremony spot. The employees also had no idea where to send us when we asked for directions. Then, at the reception, there were only two small serving tables for food (set up like stations) for a guest list of around 150. People stood in line for ages to get their food. Once you got your food at one “station” you then had to wait in another line for the second “station”. Most people ended up eating their food from the first station while waiting in line. I think, unfortunately, people tend to remember the inconveniences more than how beautiful everything was. I’m rambling now, so I’ll stop.
Post # 7
1) Food – sufficient amount of food and beverages are available. Alcohol isn’t a must but super appreciated
2) Temperature control – indoor or outdoor, make sure you consider your guests. If it’s 90 degrees outside, move indoors to the AC. If it’s cold, pass out shawls for the ladies, add heaters, etc.
3) Progression of the evening, keep things moving along and don’t disappear for too long – guests come to see the couple!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
If overall I had a nice and relaxed time, if I liked the food.
Post # 9
I’d say the food and the music, too. I drink (a little) but I never really care about the alcohol and if I was invited to a wedding without it, I wouldn’t give a rat’s patootie. 🙂 given that I am on this board as much as I am, I always remember the bride’s dress… but I would bet that most people don’t notice the detail I do when it comes to gowns.
I went to a beautiful wedding about a year ago…. and the servings were very small (sit down dinner) and the food was stone cold when it was served. I ended up eating 2 pieces of cake since I was still hungry afterward, especially after dancing since the music was great and we tore up the dance floor. I was hoping that we were having sliders or something closer to midnight… but no such luck. Both dh and I were hungry when we left, so I made him go thru the drive thru on the way back to the hotel. Seriously.
The other thing I remember is if my gift is acknowledged via a thank you card or email or whatever. The wedding I mentioned above occured out of town for us, so dh and I took a flight, paid for a hotel room, car rental, etc., so it was not cheap for us to attend. We also brought (paid for) a family friend to come with us to watch our kids so that we could go to the wedding. We bought a gift from the registry in advance of the wedding and never rec’d a thank you card or any acknowledgement. Finally, I contacted the groom via FB and asked him if the gift was rec’d. He said (I’m serious here) that he didn’t know bc his wife was dealing with the gifts. So… I do remember that part, too.
Post # 10
Food!!! Music, and venue (temp, ambiance, service) – i went to a wedding last weekend and omg it was so hot, this particular venue didnt have AC at all! I was dying and im 36 weeks pregnant. But the venue was beautiful!
Post # 11
I remember the venue and the people I socialized with. Food and drink are important, but not really memorable. The other stuff is just fluff.
Post # 12
Food, temperature, the travel to get there and visiting people. With my siblings weddings I can remember great details but every other wedding I remember food and people or how hot I was at an outdoor wedding at the start of August, where the humidity made it like, 100 degrees out.
Post # 13
Food, brides dress, bridesmaid colours and then music.
To me it depends on how much effort was put in… one recent wedding everything was DIY and it was beautiful… i constantly remember little details about that wedding. Then not long after we went to another and the bride was very carefree. I remember the food was cold and her colour was purple and that there was some dig about the husbands ex in the speeches.
Post # 14
I remember mostly things that made their weddings stick out. For example, I went to a wedding where instead of bouquets the bridesmaids walked with candles in clear vases down a dimmed church aisle. Very dramatic and symbolic. I’ve also been to a wedding where a bridesmaid got totally drunk off her rocker 30 mins into the reception and locked herself on a bathroom stall crying over a recent miscarriage. We all felt absolutely terrible for her loss and it put a damper on the whole night.
Things I also note are how happy were the couple, if they and their bridal party looked good in their outfits, if it was too hot or cold, & if it was a kicking party or a simple family gathering also make my mark. Food is on the cusp, like I remember my sister had some pretty good darn food, but I don’t remember exactly what I ate. But can I remember a single napkin ring, ribbon on chairs, or font on a program? Nope.
Post # 15
I always remember couples that take care of their guests. My motto is if you wouldn’t do it at a party at your house, try not to do it at your wedding. For example, I would never charge someone for a drink at my house. Nor would I invite them over and then say “OK, I’m going to go do something, entertain yourself for 4 hours!” I hate gaps! I always remember when people are great hosts and really take care of their guests.