(Closed) As a guest, what do you remember MOST about weddings?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 16
263 posts
Helper bee

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MrsMeowton:  that is a great point brought up in through this post and I’m glad you did! 

seems like majority of guests will remember the food and the caterer’s service. I would particularly take note of the decorations and themes, especially now that I’m planning my own wedding as well.


Post # 17
1178 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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MrsMeowton:  I never remember the food because I rarely eat it since sit down dinners are not common here. I’ll remeber if it’s not an open bar. Bride and bridesmaids attaire. I tend to notice if there’s a general theme and how well they pull it off. Music/dancing/party atmosphere or not. And lastly the company… I don’t enjoy weddings as much when I don’t know many people there. 

Post # 18
6947 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’ve only been to a few weddings, but remember something different from each – the first was hanging with my old high school buddies (good) + hearing them put ‘obey’ in the ceremony, which I would have refused, were I the bride.  One I remember the cake, which was beautiful, and the boredom because I didn’t know anyone there except the couple and a bridesmaid and I’m not a drinker or dancer, especially alone.  The third I remember that it was a super short ceremony (awesome) and that then we waited what felt like hours for them to show up again because they were taking pictures and not one person at the reception had any idea what we were supposed to be doing ourselves.  Plus I remember the “oh no, not that song again” when big butts or something equally stupid was played.  And for my best friend’s wedding I remember that she seemed exhausted all day, that she sacrificed the food for photography and my then boyfriend, now husband found a slug in his salad.  We had fun, but really the bad things stick out for me in the end, as they’re more memorable than the same ol’ same ol’.  Oh, one last wedding – fan-freaking-tastic food in Austin :o)

Post # 19
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

One wedding I was at the bride and groom didn’t show up until 3 1/2 hours after the ceremony. The bridal party was back and walking around. A member of the bridal party told us that they were having sex in their “getting ready room” between the ceremony and reception.  It was annoying. We were hungry… we ended up eating close to 9:30pm.  I think it just showed a lack of courtesy for the guests. 


Post # 20
1754 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

The atmosphere, which depends a lot on whether the wedding is well organized!

Last year I went to two very similar weddings – the girls actually married a set of brothers. The church was the same, the ceremony was even the same, and the style was the same – early afternoon with lunch to follow. 

Wedding 1 ran smoothly, everything on time, no waiting around for too long, and as a result, everyone was happy and relaxed. Wedding 2 was so stressful and hectic because no one knew what was going on, photos took 3 times longer than scheduled, there were several big last-minute changes that affected guests, and all of this made the guests and the bride/groom pissy and irritated. 

Post # 21
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Food and Decor. (Yes, I’m *that* person). If the place seems barely decorated, I find it off-putting. One wedding I went to served carved turkey (August wedding) which seemed very weird to me, since I associate turkey with Christmas. Plus I thought the tablecloths were ugly. (Yeah, I know, this was shallow and horrible and, at the time, I didn’t know how much $$$$$$$ weddings cost).

That being said, when you care about the the people getting married, it could be in a 7-Eleven parking lot and you’ll have a great time because it’s the people that matter the most. My best friend had a magician and no music (which I worried was going to be super weird!) at her wedding but it as AMAZING. So much fun! It was also personal and very meaningful to the couple.

Do what YOU and your fiance(e) makes you happy. Don’t be afraid to be different. (Some catty girl’s going to judge your tablecloths anyway,lol.)

Post # 22
1183 posts
Bumble bee

Food and how the day flows.

I hate having a long cocktail hour with no/minimal options for sitting down, whilst photos are taken in every possible combination. – I’m not anti photos, I just question how guest friendly it is to have an hour of group shots with guests followed by couples shots etc  

I also dislike having to hang around for ages after the food with nowhere other than standing in/around a bar so the room can be prepared for the disco. 


Post # 23
687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Ceremony, venue, food, whether people danced (in that order). Speeches, if they’re good. 

Post # 24
1547 posts
Bumble bee

Food is the big one for me along with atmosphere. I like to be sat with people I know or will get along with (aka not on a table with 6 older men from the grooms workplace…). I also remember interesting venues (not that they are necessary, just something extra I enjoy). Its nice when im at a venue where I can get up, leave the room and explore another with other people. Gardens or somewhere to wander around at night where its romantic are nice too. It makes a change from the usual dinner/dancing.  

Post # 25
7976 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

Food, booze, and whether the whole atmosphere was nice. If the music was too loud, that’s a pet peeve of mine… I think weddings are an opportunity to socialise with family members and friends you may not have seen in a long time.

Post # 26
8684 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Food, alcohol, and music

Post # 27
3184 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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MrsMeowton:  The bride being an hour and 45 mins late go the ceremony. After that we go to the cocktail hour and there are no passed  apps. The wedding was supposed to start at 4 but didn’t start till 545 and we were all hungry the only thing they had was a cheese spread. (They had the money to get the passed apps but opted not too as they were starting at four) the ceremony ended at 645 we are all hangry.

Post # 28
1647 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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1. Food

2. Bride’s dress

Post # 29
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Guest comfort is what I remember the most the past two wedding I have been to (aside from my own) both had two toilets for 120 guests and both had I break early into the reception and never get fixed and both were a long walk outside in the dark with no signage or lighting to know where to go, the second wedding was also very dark we ate outside in a covered area and the clear roof had fairy lights in it but the edge tables weren’t seated under that and we were all eating by the light of our phones 

Post # 30
3728 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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MrsMeowton:  food, booze, and how we got to where we slept. If you have a wedding with no transportation options (including cabs) and no affordable hotel options, I remember be tired and sober. If we both can drink and get home safely, it’s awesome.

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