- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2013
The food and venue
The food and venue
Haha, am I the only one who always remembers whether or not the best man/ maid of honor toasts were good, as opposed to long, boring, or extremely awkward? I am giving people a time limit!
Honestly? As long as I had some fun I’ll be happy as a guest. I don’t care for the food, music or anything. I’m there to celebrate with the couple and if I can do that, then it’s a perfect wedding.
Food (including cake and alcohol) and music. Years ago, I went to my cousin’s wedding. The ceremony and reception were held in a building on a college campus where the couple met. Because of that, no alcohol could be served. That wasn’t a huge deal to me, but the only beverage in sight was soda. I’m not a huge soda drinker and would have liked to find some bottled water. If you’re going to have a dry wedding, have plenty of water available for people to drink. The food was decent, but I was still hungry when I got home at the end of the night. As for music, try to play a variety of music for your guests. You and your fiancee may love country music for example, but that doesn’t mean all of your guests want to line dance and two-step all night.
Like most other people–food/drink and overall gaiety of the reception (as measured by things like, are people dancing? do most tables seem to have good conversation going? am I sitting with people that are either friends/intriguing strangers?) are the two big ones for me.
I also take note of any unexpected theological/philosophical/political stances in any sermons or speeches (if a person who had never shown evidence of being very conservative gets married by an officiant who speaks of the need of the woman to obey or of a duty to produce children, that’s a sign that my relationship with the person will probably change a lot as a consequence of this marriage).
The overall ambiance and emotion. I remember ceremonies most because I’m an emotional person. When the bride walks down the aisle with her father, my eyes start to tear. If the bride or groom cries while reciting their vows, I will start crying too. The genuine emotion is what makes a wedding memorable to me.
I also notice and remember the bride’s outfit (not in great detail, but I remember the dress’ shape and style, how the bride’s hair was done, etc.).
I don’t remember food, unless it’s super unusual.
How fun the dancing was (what kind of music, band vs dj)! I also kind of remember the food but I haven’t been to a wedding where the food was amazing or horrible. I also remember if the bride/groom made the rounds so I at least had a moment to say congratulations.
The food. I literally don’t care about the rest.
The biggest complaints I hear are:
I def don’t remember specifics (and our wedding was very detail-centric). I remember whether I was full and happy or hangry. I remember if I had fun dancing the night away or if I spent most the event sitting bored out of my mind. That’s it.
The food, the music mix, and the fit of the brides’ dress. Armpit fat folds aren’t flattering on anyone and should be avoided.
Location, food, whether or not they had alcohol (drinks, please!) and entertainment. I don’t remember centerpieces or flowers, and I rarely remember the dress.
Good = food, booze (which sounds awful), and entertainment… by entertainment i mean there isnt long gaps or 3 hour speeches etc etc, best wedding i went to had games set up like lawn bowling, etc
Bad = bride & groom who were 2 hours late to the recpetion = starvation & super drunk guests, being served an italian buffet with no sitting (its hard to stand and eat spaghetti)
Ugly = uncomfortable speeches (e.g. i went to one where they continuously talked about the brides dark drug past… why?!?)
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