(Closed) As a guest, what do you remember MOST about weddings?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 31
7425 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

The food and venue

Post # 32
1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Haha, am I the only one who always remembers whether or not the best man/ maid of honor toasts were good, as opposed to long, boring, or extremely awkward?  I am giving people a time limit!

Post # 33
146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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MrsMeowton:  food, and atmosphere ( fun music ever one having a good time and no just sitting looking bored to tears)

Post # 34
618 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Honestly? As long as I had some fun I’ll be happy as a guest. I don’t care for the food, music or anything. I’m there to celebrate with the couple and if I can do that, then it’s a perfect wedding.

Post # 35
11 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015

Food (including cake and alcohol) and music.  Years ago, I went to my cousin’s wedding.  The ceremony and reception were held in a building on a college campus where the couple met.  Because of that, no alcohol could be served.  That wasn’t a huge deal to me, but the only beverage in sight was soda.  I’m not a huge soda drinker and would have liked to find some bottled water.  If you’re going to have a dry wedding, have plenty of water available for people to drink.  The food was decent, but I was still hungry when I got home at the end of the night.  As for music, try to play a variety of music for your guests.  You and your fiancee may love country music for example, but that doesn’t mean all of your guests want to line dance and two-step all night.  

Post # 36
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Like most other people–food/drink and overall gaiety of the reception (as measured by things like, are people dancing? do most tables seem to have good conversation going? am I sitting with people that are either friends/intriguing strangers?) are the two big ones for me. 

I also take note of any unexpected theological/philosophical/political stances in any sermons or speeches (if a person who had never shown evidence of being very conservative gets married by an officiant who speaks of the need of the woman to obey or of a duty to produce children, that’s a sign that my relationship with the person will probably change a lot as a consequence of this marriage).

Post # 37
2889 posts
Sugar bee

The overall ambiance and emotion. I remember ceremonies most because I’m an emotional person. When the bride walks down the aisle with her father, my eyes start to tear. If the bride or groom cries while reciting their vows, I will start crying too. The genuine emotion is what makes a wedding memorable to me.

I also notice and remember the bride’s outfit (not in great detail, but I remember the dress’ shape and style, how the bride’s hair was done, etc.).

I don’t remember food, unless it’s super unusual. 


Post # 38
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

How fun the dancing was (what kind of music, band vs dj)! I also kind of remember the food but I haven’t been to a wedding where the food was amazing or horrible. I also remember if the bride/groom made the rounds so I at least had a moment to say congratulations. 

Post # 39
9071 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

The food. I literally don’t care about the rest. 

Post # 40
7581 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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MrsMeowton:  Definitely food and atmosphere/guest comfort. I’m a wedding photographer, so lets just say I hear A LOT of guest chatter throughout the event as I’m wandering through the wedding. 😉 The best weddings are those where everyone has a seat (ceremony AND reception), plenty of good food/drink, and good music/entertainment.

The biggest complaints I hear are:

  • Not enough seating…ceremony and/or reception
  • Not enough food or drinks
  • HEAT…your guests don’t want to be uncomfortable or hot
  • TIME….being made to wait or sit around while things are off scheudle is a biggie I hear people moan about a lot.


Post # 41
1614 posts
Bumble bee

I def don’t remember specifics (and our wedding was very detail-centric).  I remember whether I was full and happy or hangry. I remember if I had fun dancing the night away or if I spent most the event sitting bored out of my mind.  That’s it.

Post # 43
1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

The food, the music mix, and the fit of the brides’ dress. Armpit fat folds aren’t flattering on anyone and should be avoided.

Post # 44
1551 posts
Bumble bee

Location, food, whether or not they had alcohol (drinks, please!) and entertainment. I don’t remember centerpieces or flowers, and I rarely remember the dress.

Post # 45
24 posts

Good = food, booze (which sounds awful), and entertainment… by entertainment i mean there isnt long gaps or 3 hour speeches etc etc, best wedding i went to had games set up like lawn bowling, etc

Bad = bride & groom who were 2 hours late to the recpetion = starvation & super drunk guests, being served an italian buffet with no sitting (its hard to stand and eat spaghetti)

Ugly = uncomfortable speeches (e.g. i went to one where they continuously talked about the brides dark drug past… why?!?)

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