(Closed) As a guest, what do you remember MOST about weddings?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 76
Member
6104 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Food and music are the big ones. Venue location is another one.

If the food sucks or there isn’t enough, I’m disappointed.

If the music is boring or just one genre the whole time I won’t dance and won’t have a good time.

If the venue is super far away, in an area that’s known for traffic at the time of the wedding, or the ceremony and reception are in different locations that aren’t close to each other.

Post # 77
Member
275 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
starfish0116:  Seating is my biggest pet peeve!  I live in the south where all of my friends have been advised by planners and venues to have seating for about 60% of guests “to encourage mingling”.  This makes NO sense to me!  I always see older people without seats and it never fails that I am always one of the ones who cannot find somewhere to sit.  Then we are left fumbling with a drink in one hand and a cocktail plate of food in the other trying to figure out how to eat it when both our hands are occupied.  Everyone here is going to be so confused when I have assigned tables because it will be so bizarre for them, but then I won’t end up with an empty seat here and there so couples are left stranded when they can’t sit together.  It will be a buffet so if people want to mingle they can, but everyone will have a spot to return to if they wish.  Trying to compromise to please my northern family who is used to a seated meal, and his southern family/ our friends who don’t understand table assignments!

Post # 78
Member
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

View original reply
Aquaria:  Agreed. Food, music, and an open bar! 😛

Post # 79
Member
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

View original reply
MrsMeowton:  

 

I have not been to too many wedding. The thing I remember the most was my brother’s wedding where my sister in law tie red heart ballon on each table… it was so romantic that I keep thinking “love is in the air”

Worst wedding was bad taste joke/game a best man host…. the best man asked the future mother in law’s boyfriend to demonstrate breast feeding on the stage..where he asked the boyfriend pretend he is a baby …. then after that, the best man ask if anybody will “teach” the couple how to do it right on their first night…….. specficially asked for “[email protected] style”….odd enough, there was a couple actually went up and demonstrate……… after the game/show, everybody just want to go away.. it was so wrong at some many ways, especially quite a bit of elderly in the wedding.. 

Post # 80
Member
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

The bride and groom’s attitudes. Sounds weird I know but I’ve been to quite a few weddings. Some “platinum” some balling on a budget. I’ve always noticed that the weddings with the most elements(sparkler sendoff, fireworks, performers, singers, comedians, etc, etc,etc) the couples usually seemed distracted or watching for guest reactions. I remember being at one wedding where the couple kept going around asking guests “how did you like the sax player..we got a good deal for him”…”So the horse&carriage was a nice touch right!” I figure if you have to play it up its not worth it. On the other hand I’ve been to very simple,elegent weddings and had a great time without all the extra. So my advice would be to plan your wedding like you would any other dinner party. I keep telling my guest its going to fell like New Year’s Eve with cake! Your guests will notice of you are stressing over the details and if you are really having fun! 

Post # 81
Member
7582 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

View original reply
EnglishGardenGirl:  I’m with you, not having (assigned) seating for everyone is one of my biggest wedding no-no’s. I had over 200 people at my wedding, everyone told me a seating chart would be a nightmare. Honestly, my DH and I sat down a few weeks before the wedding and kocked the whole thing out in 20 minutes – it was not difficult AT ALL. Once dinner was over, hardly anyone sat at their table but they all appriciated having a “home base” for their stuff. 

Post # 82
Member
376 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
jelly3:  you are definitely not the only one, I agree 100%!! I don’t care at all about the food and have never had “bad” food at a wedding…no matter how lavish, to me it’s all just food.

i’m not there to eat, i’m there to celebrate with the couple so the best weddings have that festive, celebratory feeling through the day.

i always only end up remembering the overall “vibe” – fun, boring, awkward, etc. I’ve found that the ones that are the most fun always have good, upbeat music that gets people dancing and plenty of alcohol to make people feel like dancing 😉

Post # 83
Member
234 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Food, Music, and Booze! LOL.  My Fiance and I were talking, and we really cannot remember what the centerpieces looked like, if there were chair covers, or what the favors were at the weddings we’ve attended.  But we certainly remember the weddings where there was no music, the progression of the wedding was slow, there was little/bad food, etc.  

Post # 84
Member
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

View original reply
bananastand:  So glad I’m not the only one! I expect to be fed at a wedding but as long as they’re not serving hot pockets, I could care less about the food quality! Wedding food is always something decent but never anything memorable to me. Then again I don’t go to a wedding expecting a fancy 7 course meal, I go expecting a fun party! If the most memorable thing about my wedding is the food, I’ll consider my wedding a flop. I want my guests to remember all the love and happiness shared throughout the day and all the fun they had!

Post # 85
Member
8031 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’ve been to a LOT of weddings. The ceremony–short & heartfelt? Yay. Long but a great program to read? Happy. Standing for a ceremony I can barely see and can’t even hear? Makes me feel as if my presence wasn’t really important or considered. 

The overall vibe of the reception–food is really important to me but I’d rather eat good pulled pork at a picnic table at a joyful event than filet mignon with white glove service at an event where you can feel the tension between family/wedding party/etc. Music can do a lot to set the tone and make or break the party part of it all. 

When there is no place to sit down, it’s too hot, food is lacking, music is too loud or otherwise inappropriate for the audience, or guests are uncomfortable in general they tend not to stay long and don’t look very happy in your pictures. I read a lot about bridal visions on this site. Maybe because I’m older and don’t remember the centerpieces or linens or bridesmaids’ hair at all the weddings I’ve attended I have a different view. I do remember if people were happy and looking back at the photos big smiles trump the perfect bouquets (or Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, etc, etc)  every time. 

Post # 86
Member
376 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
EnglishGardenGirl:  arrrghhhhh we are struggling with this right now!! we are in the south and i have never been to a wedding with assigned tables/seating (even the most extravagant ones) so it’s definitely the norm for us and all of our family and friends. our planner advised us to have seats for 80% of people and then lots of cocktail tables where everyone else can rest their plates and drinks –  and my family thinks that’s the perfect scenario, too.

HOWEVER i’ve been thinking about it and now i’m thinking to do full seating with assigned tables so that everyone will have a seat and there won’t be a mad dash to find a table. i know that this will really throw everyone off, though, so i’m trying to decide if it’s worth it

my thinking is that, of course, giving everyone a seat ELIMINATES awkardness, but since it’s so far out of the norm in our area, i’m afraid it will actually create awkwardness with people not knowing where to go, what to do, not wanting to sit with the people we put them with, etc. *sigh* still not sure on this one. it’s funny that what’s ‘normal’ varies so much from region to region 

Post # 87
Member
1667 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

The good:

The cake- I LOVE how pretty wedding cakes are and how much they fit in with the rest of the decor. They’re always so unique, even if I don’t like the flavor of them

The food-not much necessary to explain

The decor- I like the ambience of the party. It doesn’t need to be a lot, but it’s interesting to see what the bride and groom were going for and how that ties in with what I know of their personalities.

The bad:

Alcohol- Or basically, how many wasted people are making asses out of themselves. I HATE being around drunk people and super wild parties so when weddings take this turn I get extremely uncomfortable and want to leave.

The temperature-Freezing cold or broiling hot? I will remember it and it will have a direct affect on my enjoyment.

Post # 88
Member
390 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

This is how I started my wedding planning, trying to figure out what was important. I went to my memory data bank (I usually have a really good memory) and tried to remember all the wedding I had gone to and what I remembered about them.

I never remembered the food unless there was none.  I don’t remember any centerpieces or even most of the cakes.  

I do remember the feel of the reception/wedding. Were people having fun, dancing.  Did the bride and groom have fun…did they seem relaxed??  

 

Post # 89
Member
275 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
bananastand:  I anticipate most of the people here will be surprised/confused.  About 1/3 of our guests (my family) will be from the North and everyone else is mostly LA and AL based.  I’ve been slowly spreading the word about my plans to have assigned tables to try to keep much of the shock at bay, but I plan to have the seating arrangements available in our cocktail hour area so I expect over the course of the hour people will understand.  I know it generally works out either way in the end, I just know that I personally feel uncomfortable as a guest when I don’t have a go-to place (like I’m the awkward kid at prom).  I was recently having this conversation with a guy I work with who is from Florida where they’re used to assigned tables.  His Fiance (from Louisiana) freaked out about the idea and said absolutely there was no way they would have seating arrangements.  To each his own.  I just figure if there is a seat for everyone, no one can complain about not having one!

Post # 90
Member
3382 posts
Sugar bee

View original reply
MrsMeowton:  I usually remember three things – the quality of the food, the centerpieces and flowers in general (I adore wedding flowers), and parts of the ceremony that were particularly moving.

The topic ‘As a guest, what do you remember MOST about weddings?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors