(Closed) As a guest, which do you like better? Sit down or Buffet?

posted 10 years ago in Food
  • poll: Do you like buffets or sit down dinners at weddings?


    Sit Down

    Family Style

    Cocktail Style

    Food/Carving Stations

  • Post # 3
    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I was going to say sit down, but I actually love family style.  I don’t like buffets bc I hate milling around with a plate of food, and with a family style meal you don’t have to.  But you still get to pick what you eat.  

    Post # 4
    8734 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I was torn between buffet and cocktail style.

    My issue with buffet is I really do not like the look of chafing dishes or the smell that the water in them lets off when they change dishes. I also don’t like standing in a long line holding my plate and waiting for food.

    If a buffet is done well, I really like it. I like the buffets where there are servers there telling you what everything is and serving it for you.

    Seated dinners in theory are great, but I agree with you that I’d like to be able try a little bit of something else, or not be stuck with my original choice if I picked chicken 3 weeks ago when I RSVP’d and now really really want beef.


    I also like the idea of a cocktail reception because it seems festive and fun. People are up and mingling and there “hopefully” are no lines because of all the stations.

    However, I feel they can get discombobulated depending on how much time people spend mingling/chatting vs eating dinner. And table assignments may get weird if 1/2 the table is up and mingling and the other half is sitting and chowing down.

    Post # 5
    398 posts
    Helper bee

    I like buffets and family style dinner better but I don’t care either way. 

    Post # 6
    1480 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Based on my own wedding experiences, I’ve found that the food at sit-down weddings tends to be better quality than buffet food. It’s also nice to not have to wait for your table to be called and then stand in line to get your meal.

    That said, I am not the kind of girl who would ever turn down a buffet!! Let me at it!

    Post # 7
    4136 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i really dislike buffets. family style all the way!

    Post # 8
    250 posts
    Helper bee

    I prefer sit down because I don’t like to walk around with a plate of food.  I do like the options in buffets though.

    Post # 9
    5117 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I voted family style, but each has their positive aspects. I like buffets because you can choose what to get and what you don’t want, but things can get cold/gross/you have to stand around to get it. Sit down can be nice too because there’s no work and it’s right there, but I am weird about food touching or my ‘corn juice’ running into my potatoes, etc, so that’s a downer. I picked family style because you choose what goes on your plate (and where…and if it’s touching, lol) but you aren’t having to mill around to get it. 

    Post # 10
    7774 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I voted sit-down, but I also like family style.

    I just have an ongoing beef with buffets. I am a FREAK about my food. I am super fastidious and picky. The thought of 100 other people eating from the same plate really, really freaks me out. I just think its generally unsanitary. You never know whose kid just sneezed in that tray of pasta salad…. I also hate the thought of a)standing in line forever and b)carrying around plates of food in dressy clothes…. I also feel like the quality of the food is lower at most that I have been to. I dunno. I just really dislike them.

    I do like family style though. At least with that, you can kep an eye on what others are doing to the food you are going to eat.

    Post # 11
    3363 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’m partial…I dont like how someone already said…to be walking around with a plate in hand! But then it seems stiff and boring to be waiting to be served and like someone said, what if you dont like it?! You have NO other options?! Well I guess thats for either serving option!

    Family style would be cool, but havent heard that being an option really anywhere!

    Cocktail would be nice, but if you have dancing and drinks I think you should have chairs!

    Post # 12
    1554 posts
    Bumble bee

    I always wanted a sit down meal where everyone was served at the same time and no on had to eat last. (I always felt this way because at every wedding I have been to I was in the last 3 tables. I was hungry.) Then that would involve seating charts and worrying who would get offended if they weren’t sitting where they wanted. BF has put the kibosh on that. 

    He has argued the point that these are all adults and they can figure out how to seat themselves. (He is right. I’ve never had an escort card and have always had somewhere to sit.) 

    Plus, with a buffet, I can load my plate full of goodies and just chow down. I can get both the beef and the chicken and the noodles and the salad and 14 dinner rolls if I want.


    I am intrigued at family style, but that probably means more money and more fuss than I want to deal with.

    Post # 13
    1498 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t like standing and waiting in line for anything, so a wedding is no exception.  We are doing a sit down dinner with menu options (4 entrees to choose from) so that people can choose from a few selections (not stuck with just what they get sort of thing) and no one will be waiting in line or carrying food around.

    Post # 15
    5385 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I didn’t vote because I would like any style as long as the food is good and I don’t have to wait a long time. I’ve been at weddings where the buffet line was very long and I’ve been to weddings where the buffet line moved very fast. We went with a buffet line because we will have 4 lines (which would move fast), it gave our guests more options, and it would cost the same either way.


    Post # 16
    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m also anti-buffet – people are always either waiting at their tables to be called or waiting in line.  Plus I like the idea of people serving me and not worrying about putting food on my own plate and having it splatter on my fancy dress!

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