(Closed) As a guest which would you prefer?

posted 6 years ago in Food
  • poll: Which would you prefer?
    Alternate : (20 votes)
    16 %
    Buffet : (107 votes)
    84 %
  • Post # 3
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    6222 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    If alternate means that out of 8 people at a table, 4 people will get one option and 4 people the other, then I would prefer the buffet- and I am normally not a buffet person. It seems weird to me that the people on either side of me would get something different. What if I wanted the other meal but nobody wanted to trade?

    Post # 4
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    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I definitely prefer buffet – I like being able to decide what I do/don’t eat, and how much. Plus it gives me a chance to get up and wander around a bit, rather than sitting with the people at my table all night.

    The only drawbacks to a buffet are people having to line up and making sure everyone gets their food in a timely manner, but with enough servers, you shouldn’t have any trouble.

    Post # 5
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    4436 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @MeiFrancis:  +1  Exactly what I was thinking!

    Post # 6
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    9115 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    If I have the possibility to not get what I wanted, I’d opt for the buffet. Why should somebody get what I want and I have to stick with something I don’t?

    Post # 7
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    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    Unless you have a ginormous guest list, I’d stick with the buffet.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I think you have to ask around your social circle. . 

    I had never heard of alternate serve until dating my Aussie boyfriend, it’s non-existent in North America, so I think most of the bees will certainly not be ok with it. I do know it’s the norm in Australia though. 

    Post # 11
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    1014 posts
    Bumble bee

    Definitely buffet!

    I’m going to a friend’s wedding in May – she and her Fiance have a guest list of 100 people, but I actually only know about 5 of them.  If she were having an alternate drop of, for example, beef and seafood, then if a seafood dish were placed in front of me (I’m not allergic to seafood, but I REALLY don’t like it!), I would only feel comfortable asking those other 5 people I know to swap with me.  It’s likely that only 2-3 of those 5 people would have received the beef dish, and if those 2-3 people liked the look of the beef and wanted to keep it, I would feel really bad about pressuring them to swap with me.  So, in that situation, I would likely end up going without a meal.

    Post # 12
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    1177 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MeiFrancis:  +1

    I’ve never even heard of this? It seems so strange to serve a variety of mains but not allow people to choose?

    Post # 13
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    1218 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I’ve actually never been to a buffet wedding but that’s what I voted for. The drawback with alternate meals is that sometimes one meal is far more popular than the other. I went to a wedding last year where the two dessert options were sticky date pudding and fig cake. EVERYONE wanted the sticky date pudding, and the waiters were just giving them out, so by the time it got to our table there was only fig cake left.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Alternate drop is very common in Australia at weddings and big functions so I would not have a problem with it (it’s cheaper than allowing your guests a choice on the night here which iswhy many go for it. Aussie invitations don’t get people to choose their main course prior to the event). Generally it means choosing to relatively safe options like chicken and beef. A lot of plate swapping between partners tends to go on though. I think it would be regarded as normal by your guests OP. I have never been to a buffet wedding in Australia yet so to me that is more unusual than alternate drop.

    Post # 16
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    1014 posts
    Bumble bee

    Would the caterer/venue be willing to consider pre-ordering, rather than alternate drop?  That way all the guests would get the meal they want, but it wouldn’t cost the caterer any more than alternate drop as they would know in advance exactly how many of each dish they need to make.  Admittedly it would be a little bit of extra work for you, as you would have to find out from your guests what they would prefer, but I do think your guests would really appreciate (a) being able to choose their meals, and (b) not having to stand in line at a buffet. 

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