(Closed) As a guest which would you prefer?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Cocktail hour or Welcome dinner
    Cocktail hour....I don't want to sit for an hour while pictures are being taken : (90 votes)
    64 %
    Welcome dinner.....After flying for 5 hours you better feed me! : (33 votes)
    24 %
    You may have to suck it up and have both : (17 votes)
    12 %
  • Post # 3
    1458 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Dinner definitely!

    Post # 4
    2600 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would do the cocktail hour.  You never know when people may get in, or what they’ll feel like when they get there… I wouldn’t necessarily expect a dinner the night prior, but if it was a destination wedding I definitely would expect a cocktail hour.

    Good luck!

    Post # 5
    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Cocktail hour for sure!


    Post # 6
    929 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I am gonna go with the cocktail hour. If you did the dinner with the same exact people the night before your wedding, then your wedding would be just another dinner together, but fancier. Not sure if this makes sense.

    Post # 7
    294 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Cocktail hour!

    Post # 8
    2114 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    cocktail hour

    Post # 9
    2422 posts
    Buzzing bee

    How long of a break will there be between the ceremony and reception? 

    Post # 11
    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Definitely the welcome dinner.  It’s nice to gather everyone up when they get there and welcome them to the wedding weekend in a casual and fun way.  

    Post # 12
    1755 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I would rather have a welcome dinner to get my footing and get an idea of what all is going on and meet up with everyone.  I don’t mind waiting an hour for the reception.  Where I grew up cocktail hours were pretty much non-existant though – people would mill about and there would be punch, nuts, and mints instead but no canapes or just a soda bar with no alcohol.  And if it’s a tropical location, I’d be happy to look at the water while you did pics 🙂

    Post # 13
    2422 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’d probably go with the dinner then. That really isn’t too long to have people wait for the reception. 

    Our Destination Wedding resort was all-inclusive so we opted not to do a cocktail hour, everyone just went to one of the bars. We also all got together for dinner the night before the wedding and everyone had a great time. If you have people who’ve never met before it’s a great opportunity for introductions. 

    Post # 14
    685 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Cocktail hour. I can find dinner on my own and I hate waiting.

    Post # 15
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Cocktail hour. I would be bored waiting around. While a welcome dinner is a nice gesture if you can afford both, I wouldn’t expect it, while most people will expect a cocktail hour.

    Though I as a guest would be fine paying for my dinner if you organized a welcome dinner! It could still be a fun thing as long as you make it clear that it is optional and guests pay their own bill. Seems fair to me!

    Post # 16
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I vote for cocktail hour. If I’m flying to PR, I’d take advantage of a mini-vacation and go out and explore on my own on the first night. 

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