(Closed) as a guest wht you didn’t like

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
3576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

A close friend had her wedding on a beach in Cancun.  It was truly beautiful but we had to take off our shoes, place them in shoe bags and go onto the beach.  What about those women in hose?  I know there were a few.  Then we had to find out shoes, wipe down our feet and proceed with cocktail hour. I always thought I wanted to get married on a beach but after that mess…no way.

Another friend got married at a mansion in Charleston, SC.  This was back in 2007 and we STILL talk about it.  There was no assigned seating, no servers.  Just stations…and not a lot.  We could eat whenever we wanted and sit with whomever we wanted.  Another cool thing, the majority of this event was outside, they had 2 living room setups on either side of the dance floor and candle chandeliers hanging from two huge, old trees.  It was gorgeous.

Post # 4
883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I went to a wedding where all the tables were UBER spread out with NO seating help whatsoever and it was mayhem.  People ended up with others they didnt know and felt very uncomfortable – we ended up with a few friends but at a table in the bar right next to the tv… which was fine because we never saw a cake or toasts or anything.  Oh, and the food was an outside  buffet (that ran out of utencils), and it was 30 degrees outside!! So we stood in line having so idea we’d end up outside for 15 minutes in the cold, with cold food and no utencils.

oh and the actual ceremony?  We knew seating was limited so we got to the chuch 15 minutes early…. which ended up being 3 times longer than the ceremony!!  I’m all for short and sweet -but 5 MINUTES?!?!  It was crazy adn all the guests stood around looking at each other like “did i fall asleep for 20 minutes and miss it all?” Nope – it was 5 minutes from entrance to exit and the guests felt jipped.

Post # 5
4382 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Ceremony - First United Methodist Church; Reception - My parents' house!

Not being able to talk to the bride and groom! I hate when they spend 23048 hours on pictures, and then the receiving line lasts about 3 seconds. Then they hide. :p

I think it’s really important for the bride and groom to greet all of their guests personally. I know that’s not really possible if you’re having a 500 person wedding, but as many as possible. It just seems sort of impersonal.

Post # 6
1896 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

Not knowing the flow of events, and feeling like I’m just standing around waiting for things to get started.  We want to run a tight ship 🙂 and make sure everything’s on schedule so guests don’t experience this!

Post # 7
5273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree that keeping your guests informed about whats going on is important, if I’m a guest and there is no direction regarding the flow of events, its very awkward.

Post # 8
102 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

My fiance was part of the wedding and sat at the head table. There was no seating chart and I didn’t know anyone…REALLY uncomfortable.

I also hate having long boring programs during the receptions that have time in between. I want to dance already!


Post # 9
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I really can’t think of any wedding I have attended where any negatives stuck with me!

One of my favorite weddings was at a movie theater, and they showed a Bugs Bunny cartoon before the ceremony began.  The officiant was a friend and it was one of the most personal weddings I have ever been to.  The couple really just put themselves out there and celebrated their eccentricities rather than trying to fit a “wedding” mold.


Post # 10
624 posts
Busy bee

I didn’t like the chair covers (don’t like them in general), they moved tables to make a dance floor (it was annoying to keep moving tables every ten minutes while trying to eat), our invitation wasn’t sent to our house (we also didn’t have a clue what was going on until that exact minute and we were in the bridal party!).

Post # 11
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Here’s one. After the bride and groom left the church, the minister kept us all seated in the church to talk about the role of women and men in the marriage. If you believe that, fine, or even if you want it to be a part of your ceremony — but preach it to guests after you’ve left??

In general, the weddings I’ve been to have all been different and are all reflections of the couple.

Post # 12
465 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I went to a wedding a few years back with not NEARLY enough seating for the guests! not fun. 🙁

Post # 13
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I have to agree the thing I hate is not knowing the flow of events going on. when my cousin got married evryone stood around outside te church waiting for them to come out for like an hour. Then when they did, NO ONE even blew the bubbles they got for favors because they didn’t know to. So, for my wedding I am labeling the petal toss and bubbles so people know what to do with them and when. 🙂

Post # 14
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I went to a wedding that cut of beverage service during dinner. That’s fine, they didn’t want people running to the bar, etc. The only problem is that they didn’t really give anyone a warning before they announced dinner and by the time they did the bar was already closed. So that meant that if you hadn’t alredy gotten a drink (like myself and 3 other people at my table) then you you didn’t have anything to drink with your meal (other than water). Also, they did a toast so I (and at this point almost the entire table) had to toast with water.

Post # 15
635 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t like when there is no where to sit down during cocktail hours.  Heels hurt standing that long, no matter how much wine I drink.

Post # 16
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Receptions that drag on and on…food takes forever to be served, band/dancing doesn’t start until 2 hours into the meal.

I plan to go on the short side with both ceremony and reception. Leave them wanting more!

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