As a guest, would this upset you?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 31
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2020

If you let everyone know before the ceremony and provide programs that explain what is happening, it should be fine!

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Your wedding, your rules! 🙂 I went to a Korean wedding last year and did not understand what was happening.  I love my friend and I loved being with her on her special day!  

Post # 33
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Bumble bee

I wouldn’t be upset or offended. Been to one wedding where the MOH’s speech was in Cantonese (I’m Chinese but don’t understand Cantonese), I didn’t mind but was a little bored cos I didn’t understand a word of it lol… frankly I think the groom didn’t understand all of it either lol he’s ABC.

Anyway it’s not about me though, it’s for the family, I think most guests are not so selfish they’d feel offended or upset by that. They know it’s about the couple and their family.

It would be good to have the program in English though so people know and can follow what’s going on.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee

Personally I would enjoy it.  I also think ceremonies are pretty boring for everyone.  It’s more the atmosphere than the words.  

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

 Been to a few weddings where I didn’t understand what was going in. I expected it though, since the families mostly communicated in another language. I don’t think any guests would be offended – it’s after all, about the families.

If it’s only a handful of people maybe you can speak to them informally about it? Though it would be nice to provide a translated program. Maybe give a short description of the significance or what is happening in each part of the program is sufficient.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I would have no problem with it. I would think it was pretty cool. I would just want an explanation of what was going on along with a translation. 

Post # 37
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2020

rheedic :  Personally, it would not bother me at all! I love learning about different cultures & languages. It might be nice to provide a translation in the program so that others can follow along.

congrats!

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

No, its the couple’s native language. If you want people to pay attention then have a translation in some form. 

Post # 39
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Helper bee

I attended a wedding in Korea where the groom and about half of the guests were American. It was apparently a traditional Korean wedding, but they had two “officiants” (they seemed more like MCs, really) explaining what was happening, one in English and one in Korean. It was fine.

I also attended an Indian ceremony recently that was about an hour long and mostly in Sanskit. The bride let us all know in advance that people are not expected to pay attention the entire time and it would be fine to get up, get a snack or drink, and come back. It sounded weird but people were totally talking and moving around throughout the ceremony. So that’s another option, apparently.

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