(Closed) As a guest would you be fine with no cake?

posted 6 years ago in Food
Post # 3
4675 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

As a guest I would eat the cupcake right away, unless food is being served promptly after I sit down.  I like the idea, but it might confuse the guests, they might not understand that this is the wedding ‘cake’.  

Post # 4
4354 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I honestly don’t think I’d notice, actually maybe if there was a cake cutting but I’ve only eaten cake at 2 weddings, so no I don’t think most people will care.

Post # 5
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

I think this is a super cute idea.  I wouldn’t mind having cupcakes instead of cake, and  I don’t think I’d touch them until after dinner.. but even if I did, I wouldn’t mind that that was the dessert.  If it bothers you, maybe you could put a little sign that says “enjoy me after your delicious dinner” or something?

Post # 6
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I don’t know about other people, but if I were a guest, I would wait for dinner to be served before taking a cupcake…just because I wouldn’t want to be the first to disassemble a centerpiece, lol.  I like your centerpiece idea, very cute!  If you want to have a cake cutting with a small cake, do it! Maybe you could post a little sign next to the wedding cake saying that the centerpiece cupcakes will serve as desert?  I love cake and would keep if for me and Darling Husband to share later on.  :-p 

Post # 7
1954 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I love cake. Especially wedding cake. I eagerly await that part of the night! Honestly I’d probably be pretty annoyed to see a cake cutting but not get served any cake.  If you aren’t going to serve cake, I would cut out the cake cutting tradition entirely. 


Can I ask why it matters if someone eats the cupcakes immediately? I can see being upset if someone took it uphe themselves to cut the wedding cake and eat a piece but if you’re leaving the cupcakes on the table, I think that’s indicating that it is okay to eat. You could always ask the dj to announce at dinner to please refrain from eating the cupcakes until the cake cutting. 

Another idea. I’ve seen weddings where people have individual round cakes (usually homemade) as the centerpiece. That, I think people would refrain from helping themselves. You could do a simple buttercream frosting decorated with fresh grocery store flowers and a nice cake stand (easy to DIY)

Post # 8
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@elysion:  Oooh, I like your idea!

Post # 9
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I love cake!! 


I thikn the cupcake idea is a cute idea — I totally want to do cupcakes and a small, single tiered cake that I can do a cutting with.  Maybe you can still use the cupcake centerpeice idea and just leave a little note that the cupcakes are dessert??  Unless you wouldn’t mind if a guest ate the cupcake prior to dinner.

Post # 10
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m not sure if it would work with your theme, but why not do mini candy buffets as centerpieces? Then you can bring out the cupcakes and a small cake cutting for dessert?

I’ve been to a wedding where there was no cake – instead, the couple had their servers bring out a huge tray, to each table, of assorted pastries and cookies. It was great! 

Post # 11
1686 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

 I think if they’re on the tables, people will eat them. If you care about that (you don’t have to) then wait to bring them out until the cake cutting. If you need an alternate edible centerpiece, maybe you could do bread or fruit, and then have those replaces with the cupcake stands for dessert.

ETA: My sister did a small cake for cutting (it was actually the “groom’s cake” but it made for nice photos 🙂 and the main “cake” was actually cupcakes in a tiered stand. There was a dessert bar also with other kinds of pastry, and all these were set up after dinner. Nobody touched the cupcakes on the cake table until after the cutting.

Post # 13
270 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

As a guest, I wouldnt care.  But I know some people expect a wedding cake even though they don’t want to eat any of it.  It just doesn’t feel like  a wedding to them without one.

Post # 14
27 posts

A friend of mine had a cupcake tower instead of a cake, and at the top was a very small cake for her and the groom to cut. They ate the cake and saved the rest for later, and the guests all had cupcakes. So no, I don’t think it would be weird to give cupcakes but still cut a small cake. 🙂

Post # 15
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I recently went to a wedding where they had a similar centerpiece…instead of cupcakes they had a lot of different sweet treats including brownies and pastires and the like…it was really cute. We didn’t know if we were supposed to eat them or not, but after some discussion, we decided that it was okay to eat them after dinner was served. There was no actual wedding cake and nobody complained.  I LOVE wedding cake, but I’m not the type to complain if it’s not there.

Post # 16
3471 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

I think it would be confusing to do a cake cutting without offering some kind of cake/cupcakes, so if you want to do this, I’d stick with the cupcake tree idea (which I think is SUPER cute!!!) I would simply put a sweet note saying something like “As delicious as these look, we would apprecieate if you wait until after the cake cutting to enjoy them!” Just to let your guests know that there is a “presentation” of sorts to come, and then they get to enjoy their treat.  And if a few people don’t listen; you honestly wont notice or care on your wedding day! 

But, if you want to skip them, the candy bar is definitely good enough.  My guests didn’t mind not getting cake if that’s any comfort.  



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