As a guest-would you be satisfied?

posted 1 year ago in Reception
Post # 61
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

sharpshooter :  sure. but longer receptions usually have a midnight buffet or some kind of food out,and a full 3+ course dinner with apps before, esp if people will be dancing and having some drinks. That’s why I think the shorter reception with limited tapas foods and storage is a better idea. but to each their own.

Post # 62
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Busy bee

All of that sounds delicious!! Here’s the problem, you mentioned there would be kids and kids (as well as some adults) are picky eaters. They might only want pizza and wings! So they would take more than their “allotted” amount. And while others could choose the other dishes, maybe they would have liked their share of the pizza and wings too! I’d always prefer to have too much than not enough because people can eat a lot more than you think, especially while dancing and drinking. 

Post # 63
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2025 - City, State

Raw meat options (sushi, carpaccio) do not go with Budweiser and jello shots.  I suggest that you both tone down the food, i.e. skip these two items, and add some better beer.  You should also look into other options at the supermarket you’re getting the shrimp from, for a cheap and easy way to bulk out the buffet and make sure there’s plenty for everyone.  And strongly consider using fewer vendors as previous posters have suggested.  You don’t have to offer something from every one of your favorite restaurants!

Post # 64
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Sugar bee

michelleh0686 :  “…I don’t adhere to the pleasing your guests frame of mind.”

It’s not a frame of mind. It is hospitality.

Post # 65
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

capnhowdy609 :  Honestly, I never really understood why people try to please their guests at weddings. If I’m going to a wedding, it’s to support the couple, not to critique their choices. Your wedding, your rules. 

Personally, I think that sounds pretty awesome! But really the only people you have to please with your wedding are you and your husband to be.

Post # 66
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

chelbell23 :  if you were a vegetarian, and I know you are one, I invited you to spend money and time, to come to my party, to celebrate a life choice that I made. There’s nothing for you to eat. 

I guess I’m just older, I don’t mind sitting at home doing nothing.

Post # 67
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

cherryberrypie :  I’m celiac, so that is exactly what happens at 99% of the events I’m invited to. I’m used to it, and I don’t really mind it. I’m not going to eat, I’m going to wish them well, see them off, congratulate them – whatever that event is for. I’m not going to a party just for the food, even if I can eat it. If I don’t like someone enough to go celebrate with them without an incentive, I’m just not going to go.

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

chelbell23 :  if I knew you, I would absolutely make sure you would have something to eat at my wedding, when you come over to visit. When we eat out together, we would look through the menu before we go in, to make sure there’s something you can eat.

Post # 69
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Sugar bee

As far as food goes, I love it. I personally like lots of variety and small portions. Much better than your boring chicken or steak meals. I would love some liquor, as not a fan of beer or wine..maybe tell your guests to byo liquor? 

Post # 70
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019 - City, State

cherryberrypie :  I very much appreciate that! I am always very appreciative to people who accomodate me, but I am just not the type to expect someone to cater to my dietary needs, nor am I likely to point them out unless asked. For longer than I would like to admit, I would just eat food I knew I was allergic to rather than cause a fuss and make anyone feel bad about me not being able to eat.

That being said, I always try to have options for a variety of dietary needs at anything I plan. But, as a guest I never presume to have any expectations of what a host should be providing me at their party. It is their party and they’re not required to accomodate me, and I don’t take it personally if they don’t. If they want a party with everything beer battered and fried, who am I to burst their bubble? I am their guest, and I will be thankful for being invited nonetheless. 

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

 I think it sounds like enough food, what we don’t know is based on your crowd whether people will gravitate towards some of the items causing you to run out of those while other remain uneaten.  I love divey food, but personally when I’m dressed up and talking to people I’d opt out of chowing down on wings for fear I’d get it stuck in my teeth or spill on my dress.  I’d probably end up eating all the carpaccio & sushi.

There have been all kinds of studies that when there is greater variety people at more.  I think that’s especially the case when food is buffet style vs. passed where there is more of an issue of availability.  If it were me I’d probably lessen the variety and offer more of each.  I’ve gone to weddings where there was too much variety and seemed like there was a lot of half eaten, wasted food as people attempted to try everything.

Post # 72
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

chelbell23 :  I don’t look at it as accomodate. Kindness goes both ways. A friend has a medical condition, it’s not impossible to find gluten free food, granted, my friend knows where they are, Wendy’s for a potato and chilli? Why should she accomdate me instead of me to her? It’s not impossible to make some lentil soup.

A friend once told me, “I can stay home and eat boiled eggs.” It has struck with me since because yes, no one has to be my friend.

A friend is important enough to me that I’m inviting her, the least I can do is make her not hungry. 

Post # 74
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I think you may want to consider having more servers, as well as providing a more substantial snack later in the evening if you intend the party to go on for a while. If it’s going to be a short reception or you are giving people enough time in between the ceremony and the reception to scoot out for dinner it’s less of a concern, but I think it is a bit much to ask people to run off finger foods from 3pm through 1am. 

Post # 75
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

chelbell23 :  Honestly, I think the reception is about the guests as much if not more than about the couple. The ceremony is about the couple, as are the speeches, but the reception is part celebration and part “thank you” for being there. Guests’ comfort absolutely matters – it’s part of being a gracious host.

I wouldn’t invite a friend over for dinner and then serve them chicken wings.

Biggest thing here is ensuring that the guests know what to expect so that if they feel they will need to eat more substantially than that, they can duck out somewhere before the reception to eat. 

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