(Closed) as a parent..

posted 6 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

….it gets really hard when they’re old enough to make their own choices and you have to let them…even when you know it’s a mistake.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

And when they are little, it’s when they’re sick, hurt or sad and you can’t do a thing about it.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@mrshersch74:  My daughter is 6 months old, so I don’t really know anything about her making her own choices yet…but that sounds exceptionally difficult!

From an infant standpoint, the diapers are really not that bad.  I mean, I’m not gonna lie, some of them are NASTY, but you change them because you have to, and you get over it.  (Although, full disclosure, I didn’t change any of the meconium diapers, because I thought they were FOUL.  My husband did them all.)

I would say the hardest part is when they cry, and you have no idea why.  You go through the list, you change them, feed them, burp them, play with them, leave them alone, try to get them to nap…and nothing works.  DD this this for two straight weeks, 4 hours of screaming every night.  I read in a post somewhere, if you are ever angry and frustrated, put them in a safe place on the floor, and walk away, because “they can’t fall off the floor.”  I absolutely 100% did that a couple of times, and went and cried in the bathroom myself.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My daughter is almost 9. For me, the baby years were a *breeze*. Babies are actually pretty easy, in my opinion, because they all need to be fed, they all need to be burped, they all need to be changed, they all need to sleep, and they all need cuddling and kisses and love. Easy, if they do what babies do (but as a PP said, it’s awful when they’re sick and you can’t figure it out). I went into it expecting that all these things would be really straightforward, and they were, and my daughter wasn’t the easiest baby by any means.

The hard part, for me, came later. It’s both amazing and terrifying to see them become their own people. But now she’s big enough to remember things so for me the hardest thing about parenting is making sure I’m doing my best with her because I want her to remember that her parents made good decisions for her (even if she doesn’t like them now). The baby part was a breeze compared to this.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I have a 10 year old, 4 year old, and a baby on the way. Each stage comes with its own set of challenges and lessons to be learned. I wouldn’t say any part is easier or harder (I just think as they get older it is easy to forget how difficult things felt at the time).

I think the hardest part of the newborn stage is the changes that happen in your relationship with your SO. Some people sail right through and get through the sleep deprivation and frustrating times together and somethimes the changes in your relationship are a big challenge. Finding the balance between mom, working (if you plan to work), wife, daughter, etc. is really difficult.

I thought breast feeding was more challenging than I expected too.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m not a new mom any more, but I remember that for me the lack of sleep was the hardest thing.  Diapers are easy compared to that.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I have a six and four year old.  Honestly, the hardest thing about parenting so far was adding the second child to the mix.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@ieatunicorns:  Totally agree with everything you said.

I found toddlerhood to be much more challenging than the infant stage, but I know some people feel opposite, so I think it has a lot to do with the individual parent, as well.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Nona99:  +1,000,000!

As a mom of two children who are now teens, I will share one small quote that has stuck with me throughout the years. “This too shall pass.” Recite as necessary! 🙂

The sleepless nights where I would finally get the baby to sleep and gently place him in his crib only to have him break out in shrieking cries a moment after touching the crib sheets did indeed pass. Although at the time…wow…I thought it never would. I also wondered if my child would ever give up the bottle or use the potty or tie his shoes. I’m happy to share that he does all three! LoL!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My son is only 6 months so the hardest thing so far has been the chronic lack of sleep.  You never know if you’re going to have to get up 1, 2 or 10 times throughout the night.  Since you’re always on high alert anyway, even when you DO sleep, you still wake up every 2 hours just out of habit (at least I do.) The hard part about that is that there’s no real end in sight.  Just when he starts sleeping for a couple weeks and you finally start going to bed a little earlier and sleeping a little more soundly BAM, he starts waking up again.  It’s frustrating.  Sometimes my husband and I will sleep in separate rooms and one of us will take the monitor so the other one can actually get a full nights sleep.

Oh, and the lack of sex is hard.  We’re always so tired (and sick now that baby is in daycare) we just….don’t have sex anymore.  The baby wakes up super early and usually wakes us up so sex in the morning is out, we both work full-time and once we go to bed at night we’re usually too exhausted to do much of anything.  I’m really hoping the dry spell ends soon.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My daughter is 18mo old and things became a lil more stressful when she became mobile seems things don’t stay clean for longer than a day or in their place for longer than 5 minutes but I guess it’s to be expected. The most challenging thing we have encountered thus far was beginning breastfeeding. I fought with her for over a month to get her to breastfeed but once it clicked it was easy peasy. I just recently took her off the breast and that was a challenge at first too. I hate to see her cry and ask for it and know I’m depriving her of what she wants most but that too got better. It’s been a week and she hardly gives it a second thought anymore.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

it’s hard when your child is so young and can’t speak/express emotions verbally. Hard to know what hurts, etc. And when they are at my kids age  (4 yrs old) It just don’t stop 😀 Love it 😉

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mrshersch74:  I think it’s been a breeze for me. I’m the mother of a 7 and 5 year old. My kids were potty trained by the time they were 18 months since they walked at 9 and 10 months. If I HAVE to name something, i think it’d be breastfeeding my son, boys seem to suck much harder so it was a little more uncomfortable. I had to pump and then feed in a bottle or pump for his baby cereal. Other than that, no complaints yet. Good Luck.

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