(Closed) As a Waiting Bee, could I go look at rings alone?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

we went together a few times, then once we started getting more serious about it, he suggested I go and pick my top 5 and have the sales lady start a file for me.  Then, he went and chose from those 5.  So yeah, you can totally go alone, but be prepared for sales people to either pressure you, or ignore you lol.

Post # 4
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I just looked at rings online. I found if I wanted to pursue it more actively, it made the waiting process more difficult for me, because I was worried a) I could run to my SO and tell him to buy a specific ring and b) if it was going to be a while for me, then I would be thinking about those rings and what not and getting anxious

I did peruse alot of rings on etsy, and what not though, just to get my fix.

Post # 5
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Maybe take a friend so it is more fun. 🙂 Or if your Fiance is comfortable going (remind him not to feel pressured by the sales people and that it is just for ideas) I would definitely recommend that.

We went and looked together twice so he could see what styles caught my eye as well. I ended up LOVING one that he had suggested I try on and he could tell – he went back and bought it a week later. So if your Fiance is comfortable with that I think it could be beneficial to you both to go together.

That said, I don’t see anything wrong with going by yourself to get an idea of what you do like on your hand. It really narrows things down. You see that maybe you aren’t in love with a style you thought you were (I did). Lol

Post # 6
1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think it’s weird at all.  I went just once or twice to see what styles caught my eye.  It also makes the process a little less overwhelming for your SO if you can point him in a certain direction.  I found that things I liked online didn’t look the same/as good on my hand.

Post # 7
1090 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I went with my Fiance. The rings I thought I would like on, I didn’t. So I agree it is important, but go with him if you can. It makes it more fun!

Post # 8
588 posts
Busy bee

I would absolutely suggest going!!! But yeah, take a friend with you!! Possibly another waiting girl =)

I found out once I actually put a ring on my finger I liked a totally different style than what I thought! This has happened with at least 3 other girls I know!

So I want to be able to tell SO the right type of ring. 

Post # 9
120 posts
Blushing bee

I don’t think it’s weird either. I went alone once. At one point, Mr. C refused to go with me because he is so intent on making everything an absolute surprise so I went out, tried things on, and came back and told him what I liked and disliked. Plus, it’s so much fun! Smile

Post # 10
344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

totally not weird!! I dragged my 2 best friends and made a day of it. of course i had to reward them with lunch, lol. 

Post # 11
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why would that be weird? You should have a say in something that will hopefully be on your finger for decades to come. How else are you going to figure out what you like??

Post # 12
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I’d say don’t do it unless you have some idea on the budget or are good at being flexible. As said before it’s a good idea to know what styles you like to either tell him or spread the word to the right people. My worry would be falling in love with something that just isn’t going to happen, then possibly comparing the ring you get to that one. But if that’s not you, then go browse.

Post # 13
4803 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I went with my mom and sister!  It’s fun 🙂  I actually found my ring on my own and then told Fiance about it.

Post # 14
75 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Our Lady of Grace Catholic Church / Rosebank Winery

I actually went a couple times by myself b/c I worked in the city close to “Jeweler’s Row.”  At first it was awkward but then I got over it… TIP: Tell them that your boyfriend sent you… they will be friendlier… 

Post # 15
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

it’s better to see rings in real life– they always look different online. marketing companies will photograph rings in a way that makes them look bigger and clearer then they do in real life. plus, trying on rings helps you see how they look on your own hand. who knows, maybe you think you found the ring of your dreams online, but in real life you think it’s uncomfortable, or too thick, or you don’t like the way it looks from the side or…..

so yes, it is a very good idea to go ring shopping!

MissNoodle’s idea is good: start a file so your FI-to-be can see it.

Post # 16
899 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I went by myself too. I stopped by during a lunch break and told the saleman that Fiance and I were talking about getting engaged and I wanted to see what rings I liked in person. He was very friendly and helpful. He asked if I wanted for them to take my info and keep on file in case Fiance came to look. I didn’t feel weird at all, and I don’t think anyone else noticed. I will say he took me a little more seriously than a group of girls there that was “just looking”.

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