Post # 1
Our original plan for favors recently fell through, and putting together a replacement so last-minute is tough – time/money/transportation concerns, etc. My parents and BMs keep telling me to just forget about them – no one cares about favors! But my Fiance is concerned that people might be offended. So, I’m wondering, have you been to a wedding with no favors, and did you care? What did other guests say? I’m afraid some of the older, more traditional guests might get upset.
PS I know a bunch of bees are forgoing favors at their own weddings – what I’m curious about is your experience as a wedding guest 🙂
Post # 3
As a wedding guest, I really don’t care about favors. If they aren’t edible, I’ll likely leave them or throw them out at the hotel anyway as I’ve never seen a non-edible favor that I would use for anything after the wedding. They’d just take up space in a drawer so I don’t ever let them get that far.
Post # 4
I dont really care about favors… i think we’ve decided we’re not doing them. I mean.. what am I supposed to do with a glass etched coaster with another couples names and anniversary? No thanks!
Post # 5
I had just been invited to an awesome party with great food, drinks, company, and entertainment. I was not concerned about not getting a take-home cookie at the end of the day 🙂
I’m still wavering on whether I want to do favors or not, but I think most people really don’t miss having them.
Post # 6
Ditto what FutureKMM said.
Post # 7
Who cares? As long as you have food, drinks and music, then it’s all good.
Post # 8
I love food/ candy favors! I would be sad if I was at a wedding that didnt have some food/ candy favors, I know thats the first thing my mom does at weddings eat the favor!
Post # 9
I don’t think people care too much. It’s like a nice little ‘extra’
Post # 10
I like favors – they’re a good conversation piece. They give me something to remember the wedding and the good times by..I know where each of my favors is from and the good times had at that wedding. Edible favors give me a way to enjoy something sweet the next day – I was in a hotel once without continental breakfast, and ate the favors for breakfast!
Post # 11
Personally I agree with everyone who says music/food/drink is enough – I mean, we’re having a full open bar, an awesome DJ (one of our splurges), and a yummy dinner+dessert. Is a trinket/treat/etc that important?
But clearly some people do care – even my little poll shows that. I’d love to understand the rationale behind those “noticed and did care” answers!
Post # 12
I think it’s one of those things that you don’t notice if they’re left out, but they can really add to the experience if they’re there and done right. We’re doing small bottles of my FI’s favorite hot sauce from his favorite local Mexican food joint, and I think friends and family that know us will just think it’s perfect. Those who don’t know about his obsession for this place probably won’t care one way or the other.
I just like favors that are really personal, though.
Post # 13
I could not care less if there are favors or not! I always appreciate a cute favor, but I don’t even feel like I’m missing out if there is one. And for the most part, even the nice favors get tossed in the junk drawer. We didn’t do favors at all. So I obviously recommend not doing it. From both sides, as the bride/groom and as a guest- its not that important at all!
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2010 - The Atlantic Beach Club
I feel like favors usually go to waste. I always see them left on the table at the end, unless they are edible. I don’t care if there are no favros. I don’t think it’s necessary. I’ve actually heard that favors are a somewhat newer trend, I cant remember where I read this, but I think back in the day no one even gave favors, as weddings got more elaborate tehy started to include them, but if your worried about mroe traditional guests, I think they won’t mind because they may not have even done them at their own wedding.
Post # 15
I usually notice if I receive a favor or not, but I don’t really care if I don’t get one. At the last wedding I went to there weren’t any favors and I didn’t remember that they didn’t have any til many days later. At another wedding the favors were little bags of coffee, but I don’t drink coffee so I didn’t take one.
I think the best favors are something I can eat immediately – like on my way home from the reception otherwise it usually is either forgotten/not ever used.
Post # 16
Eh, if you can’t do it, don’t worry about it. If you’re really worried, here’s a quick cheater’s way of doing it:
If you have a reliable printer: get some business cards (like from Staples or Walmart) print on them your names & date and maybe a cute clipart pic. Print ’em out. Punch a hole in them. Wrap candy or cookies from wal-mart or whereever in tulle and voila – instant favor. Just attach the “card” to the favor when you tie it with yarn.
Or you can do the same with those cheap bubble kits that you can get from wal-mart, michael’s, etc. just write your names & date on the little stickers, stick ’em on the bubbles, and hand ’em out. who doesn’t like blowing bubbles? 😉
otherwise, don’t worry about it. I doubt anyone will really notice or care. 🙂