(Closed) As a wedding guest, how do you feel about no favors?

posted 11 years ago in Favors
  • poll: As a wedding guest, what was your reaction to a lack of wedding favors?

    Didn't notice

    Noticed, but didn't care

    Noticed and did care

    I've never even been to a wedding without favors!

  • Post # 32
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    Bee Keeper

    This is interesting…I’m considering totally scrapping the idea of favors now. More money for other things!

    Post # 33
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    Honey bee

    Um, before I started planning my wedding, I had no idea weddings were supposed to come with favors. I mean, you’re FEEDING me – I’m happy!

    One wedding I went to they did the boxed up extra cake thing, and I was super excited, like, “ooooh you mean I get to take another piece home!? SWEET!” and then promptly ate it in the car on the way home. 🙂

    Post # 34
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    i could care less about favors. i don’t miss them if they are offered and i usually end up losing mine/forgetting them if they are at the wedding.

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I am doing M & M’s (our colors black and fuchsia) and a little note card saying that ilo favors we are donating money to the Huntington’s disease society of america.  Guest on my side know that my father passed away from the disease and I think they would appreciate that the money was going to a good cause.

    Post # 36
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Favor – shmavor.  As a guest I could care less about a favor.  If I were a guest at your wedding, I would prefer that you spent your money in a place that you could use it, rather than on me! ( You are already paying for guests food & drink!!)

    Post # 37
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Agree with other posters, if the favors will cause you that much stress, then there is no reason for you to feel like they are absolutly necessary. In fact, I would not be surprised if the trend of favors starts to fade out, since it seeems like the arn’t worth all the money and effort, and are often thrown away.

    Post # 38
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    Newbee

    What caught me by surprise was when you said your hub was afraid some would be offended!  Offended??? You or your parents are spending a BOATLOAD of cash to throw a party for them to enjoy.  How RUDE of them to be offended that you didn’t spend hundreds more on a little something they may or may not eat or cherish forever!

    Whew.  I feel better now.  Anyway… I wanted favors for my daughter’s wedding.  She saw these totally cute damask candles and I wanted to get them but we have over 200 guests and the favors are over $2.  NO WAY.  So, as most of her/our friends are Christians, we thought a nice bookmark would be neat.  I made up a damask and red design with a nice verse on one side and a little pic of the b+g on the other with a little thank you.  That will sit next to the napkin wrapped silverware on the plate and on the other side will be a couple little dark chocolate kisses.  Appropriate sentiment (kisses) and a pretty purple color that matches the decor. 

    I really like the chocolate chip cookie idea with a tag.  If we weren’t having a dessert table, I would definitely do that.  It would have to be a great cookie though.  So easy to give a little something as a treat and match the colors and personalize it with a tag.  Go with that one, or none at all.  Aren’t you already feeding them cake?

    I think the more personal to the b+g the better, whether a personalized tag or sticker, or as one said, the hot sauce or whatever you are known for.

     

    Post # 39
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’ve been to weddings where there were no favours and I don’t remember noticing it until afterwards. On the other hand I’ve been to weddings where there were favours and I wished they had forgone them for various reasons.

    Post # 40
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I wouldn’t care if there weren’t any favours.  However, if you are worried one thing that happens frequently where I’m from, is the couple getting married makes a donation to a certain charity, and then posts a sign near the guest book that says something like:  “In lieu of favours a donation has been made by the bride and groom to ____________________________ on your behalf”.

    Ex. My grandfather passed away of a heartattack shortly before my brother and SIL were married.  My SIL’s father has also suffered (and survived) 3 heartattacks.  They decided to make a donation to the Heart and Stroke Foundation rather than spending the money on favours.  Guests were quite accepting of the idea.

    Something to consider…

    Post # 41
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    You can always print up a note to put on the table saying in lieu of favors, you made/are making a donation to ___________ charity. I think that’s money better spent anyway. If that’s too much work, you can just print one copy and put it in an 8×10 frame from the dollar store and display it on the table with the guests name tags.

    Post # 42
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Looks like Bissell and I think alike! Good luck and really, of all the things to stress about, don’t let it be the favors.

    Post # 43
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @GirlWithARing: We want to have some kind of favor, but don’t want to buy trinkets and trash.  We find it silly to spend money on stuff that most folks are going to throw away, or on candy like personalized hershey’s kisses (there’s going to be tons of delicious food at the wedding anyway!).  In lieu of favors, we’re going to donate to a charity and make photo cards with the name of our charity explaining our decision.  I think that people are far more likely to tuck a little photo with an earnest sentiment in their bag then they are yet ANOTHER wine stopper or coaster.  🙂  At least, I would be! 

    Post # 44
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    Busy bee

    Unless it is food I can eat on the way home, I leave it. I highly doubt people attend weddings for the favors. If they are offended by your not having any, then maybe you can tell them they can have extra cake.

    Post # 45
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club

    I’ve been to a couple weddings that did not have favors and it didn’t bother me.  Honestly, the favors that I have received that were not food are sitting around collecting dust.

    Post # 46
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I’ve never noticed or cared that favors were missing. At the rare couple weddings that did have them, it would have been better for them to save the money and put it toward something else.

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