(Closed) As a wedding guest, how do you feel about no favors?

posted 11 years ago in Favors
  • poll: As a wedding guest, what was your reaction to a lack of wedding favors?

    Didn't notice

    Noticed, but didn't care

    Noticed and did care

    I've never even been to a wedding without favors!

  • Post # 47
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    What my Fiance and I are doing is having a cookie bar!  We’re going to gather all our grandmas, moms, aunts, friends, and bake tons of cookies!  We and our moms are paying for the ingredients, but really, they go a long, long way and aren’t super expensive anyway. 

    It’s cheaper than a candy bar, still edible, plus we can make most kinds ahead and freeze them. We’ll have a table full of a million different kinds of cookies for guests to take and it will also double as part of dessert. 

    So, if you and your Fiance really want favors, maybe try something like that! 🙂

    Post # 48
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    as a guest i do like favors i think they are a cute little keepsake. even if they are edible i dnt eat them right away. i will do a diy project for my favors..  

    Post # 49
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Lhammond: Oh I love the idea of bookmark favors! Im a huge reader and I was thinking of doing those too.

    All of the weddings I have been to there were favors. If there was not one I think I would be bummed only because I love to see what people come up with. I have kept favors from all event I have gone to bc someone made those with love and they remind me of the event I went to and the fun that was had. The last wedding I went to had little pink candies in tulle with a ribbon and stuck in either a mini wine glass or martini glass. I thought they were so cute I didnt even eat the candy. Both mine and my fiance’s are sitting on my dresser with my perfumes bc its adorable. And that wedding was from Nov of 09′.

    But no I would NOT be offended in the least! People like to nitpick everything at weddings and forget the purpose. Its to celebrate with the B&G and since they pay for it, they pick how. Im just happy to be invited.

    Post # 50
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I voted for ‘noticed and didn’t care’ as the closest match, but I notice and think it’s great when there are no favours.

    In my experience favours are never something useful and I just end up feeling guilty knowing I’ll be throwing it out in the very near future. Or eating it, when I’ve just eaten a whole heap of food at the wedding.

    I feel plenty thanked for attending a wedding during the speeches and by getting a thank you note after. I think that favours are something that the wedding industry has convinced us are necessary just to get a bit more of our hard earned cash!

    Post # 51
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I voted for option number 4, but to be honest I don’t care much for favours. If I had my own way, I wouldn’t have them at my wedding but my mother insists on it.

    Post # 52
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    Totally don’t care if there are favors or not!

    We ended up doing VERY basic and quick favors – little envelopes with wildflower seed, a sticker of our last initial to seal it, a little quote about love+flowers (or something!) and left them on the guestbook table for people to take if they wanted to.  We had tons left over!

    Post # 53
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    We don’t have the extra money for favors like chocolates and the like. I figured I could put the extra money towards a better catering choice and (hopefully) our families wouldn’t mind =)  I personally don’t care one way or the other but voted that I’ve never been to a wedding without favors since its true lol

    Post # 54
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I have yet to receive a super awesome favor, so I’m indifferent. But I think it’s nice when the couple has a particularly lovely wedding and they make a donation. But i love the idea of home baked goodies for everybody at the end of the night!

    Post # 55
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    We are making a donation in lieu of favors. I agree that most of the time favors are pretty useless and a waste.

    Most of the weddings I’ve been too didn’t have favors and they were not missed at all.

    Post # 56
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    People take the time and money to come to your wedding, it is always a nice gesture to give a favor so they have something to take home or ‘taste’.  To each their own….but I would be a little surprised not to get ‘something’.  Put the time and effort to say thank you to your quests by a small favor.

    Post # 57
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    453 posts
    Helper bee

    I had never seen a favor until about 10 years ago. They are definitely a newer thing. It is a nice gesture, but often a waste of time and money. For guests who don’t have their cars it can be a pain to carry them around the rest of the night. I know that they get left behind at the wedding, in a cab, hotel room or elsewhere. I would never miss them or even notice is someone did not do them. 

    We are definitely not doing favors-we may do a donation.

    Post # 58
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    If I can’t eat it, it gets tossed. This close to your wedding, I’d skip favors and concentrate on other things. 🙂

    Post # 59
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Hi, I’m Casey, and I’m pro-favors.

    (Hi, Casey)

    I like favors for a few reasons: 1. I like to see how creative the couple can be.  2. I love food favors and will nosh on that cookie if I can.  3. When there is a charity donation, it’s a great conversation starter with the couple or friends about some of the great causes out there. 

    There is one situation in which I hate them: the useless-trinket scenario discussed above by other posters.  I too have unceremoniously tossed engraved pieces of crap into hotel wastebaskets.  I think as long as you avoid the “our names and wedding date” personalization, you’re fine.

    Post # 60
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    the best favor i got was a small bottle of champagne.. we drank them on the shuttle back to the hotel and kept the party going!

    i agree something edible is best. I never keep little dust collectors.

    that being said- we are doing donations. we donated to our local no-kill animal shelter and to the Avon Walk for Breast Cancer since we are walking in June and need to raise $3600

    Post # 61
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Unless it’s edible I leave it on the table!  I’m a very non-clutter type of person and I’m picky about anything I’d display at home, so candles, coasters and stuff like that I don’t want. 

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