Post # 1
Within the last week I’ve heard from both my mom and dad that the D word has been thrown around… more than it has been in the past. They’ve never had a strong relationship and it’s never been easy for them, but I still had a little hope they could pull through.
It’s teaching me a lot as I prepare to begin a marriage… It’s not always wedding dresses, flowers and ceremony music. Eventually those things don’t exist and children enter the picture. Things get tough… you pull through them. My Fiance has parents that divorced when he was two and now don’t speak. I’m afraid my parents are on the verge of that.
With 3 months until my own wedding I can’t help but have a heavy heart for all of this. I just need to keep saying that if it ever gets this bad with Fiance and I we will still hang on. It’s a bumpy ride but you make this commitment when you walk down that aisle.
I do believe divorce may be the best thing for some relationships… however it must be the ultimately last thing you try. Too many times these days do couples throw that word around early on in a marriage. Where did the times go where you stuck it out… thick or thin?
I can’t write all this on my blog because too many family and friends read it and I would hate for them to find out that way. We’ll see how things turn out and maybe it’s for the best. I just hate the thought of it.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry you are going through this. I wish you and your Fiance the best and as long as you two always try to stay on the same page you will be okay.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry that this is something you’re dealing with before your wedding 🙁 It sounds like your parents have been together for a long time already, right? Hopefully it is like you said, that this is the absolute last resort if it is where it is truly heading. Just remember though that your parents’ relationship is not you and your FI’s relationship, so just keep knowing and never doubt that you and your Fiance will always be perfect for one another. Sounds like you have a strong hold on that already though!
Post # 5
My boyfriend and I are reading The Five Love Languages and learning a lot. I don’t know your parents situation, but it’s pretty interesting no matter where you are in your relationship. Check it out on Amazon.
Post # 6
I am so sorry that this is happening! I hope that whatever ends up happening, happens with harmony for all involved. I know several divorced couples who are very good about being friendly when brought together in social situations. Not all, but most. Hopefully, IF your parents do choose to end their marriage, they will take into account that their personal feelings for each other should not in any way negatively impact the rest of the family. I can only imagine the stress and sadness you must be feeling right now. Sending virtual hugs!
Post # 7
I don’t know how close you are to your parents but what about doing a couples thing with them? Maybe you could approach them and say, hey, as we prepare for marriage could you help me and Fiance out. It would be a good bonding experience and maybe they would get something out of it, and maybe not.