(Closed) As I’m writing I am baking one of four pies, and I am broken hearted…

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Why does she want you to pretend your not engaged? I feel their is some history here i dont know about??!!

Post # 4
5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Why doesn’t she want you to wear your ring? I wouldn’t listen to her.

Post # 5
8351 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I am sorry you are having to go through this. I think your Fiance should put his foot down and tell her that, yes you will be wearing your ring and sharing what you are thankful for; each other. His mother doesn’t get a say.

Post # 6
10846 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would show up with my ring, four pies, and a big smile and be sweet as… pie….. the whole weekend 🙂  I don’t know the back story here, but kill her with kindness hon!

Post # 7
5147 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why does she want you to not talk about the wedding? Why does she want you to take off your ring?

She really has no right to tell you what you can and can’t talk about, and certainly what jewelry you can or cannot wear.

Wear your ring and have your fiance deal with his mother if it becomes an issue.

Post # 8
2904 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@wgowood:That’s awful, I’m so sorry.

I would be wounded, too.

However, I’m sure you were happy even before your engagement. Pretend like you’re almost engaged? Do you know what the reason is for keeping the secret? 


Also, ask your fiance to stand up to her for you. He’s closer to you, and he should support you and help.


Good luck!

Post # 9
5992 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

who is she? your FMIL?  what is her problem with your engagement and what does your Fiance say about this?


Post # 10
9050 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m assuming this is your FI’s mother? 

You need to take a stand with the support of your fiance.  I would not put up with being hidden away like a dirty secret.  Not cool.

Post # 11
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I am happy and proud of my engagement. I wouldn’t take my ring off or hide it for anyone no matter who it may hurt or upset and I don’t think you should either.

How does your Fiance feel about it?

Post # 14
832 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I wouldn’t take off the ring either!!

& you’re right, if you keep letting her walk all over you, she’ll think she can get away with it. You have to stand up to her. Your Fiance needs to stand up to her too!

I hope everything works out!

Post # 15
5385 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

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@wgowood: I can’t believe that she would act like that. I’m sorry you are dealing with this. I would wear my ring and kill her with kindness.

Post # 16
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Why does his mother not support your marriage?  The pumpkin pie sounds good, I bet his grandparents will love it.

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