(Closed) As the bride, can you insist etiquette is followed?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Hmm, in this case, I’d say to them that you’d appreciate if they’d only extend the invitations to wedding guests as you don’t want to make the other individuals feel bad. Hopefully you won’t have to push it further? 

Post # 4
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would definitely say something – I really like Lilyfaith’s suggestion!

I think if you say it politely they will oblige!

Good Luck!

Post # 5
1385 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with @lilyfaith, just say you’d appreciate it, and that you wouldn’t want any guests put out because you’re unable to invite them to your wedding.

Post # 6
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

I would definitely suggest it, but really, they’re going to have final say. If it’s friends or family of theirs that they know probably won’t expect an invite, that know you and want to do something nice for you, then I think it’s probably just a sweet gesture.

Post # 7
2004 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I think you are within your rights to say something, but that there is also something of an exception to this etiquette rule for church and workplace showers. You can have a shower in those contexts without everyone assuming that they are invited; just put the word out that you are having a smaller wedding (assuming that that is the case) and they will connect the dots.

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