Post # 31
That ring is drop dead gorgeous!!! Pink tourmaline is one of my favs. Beautiful beautiful beautiful! Congrats! My fiance proposed in a similar way with a suprise christmas card photo session late one night last december- hopefully you got more notice than me (messed up hair, wrinkled clothes, less than ideal makeup haha)! Did you guys get shots of him proposing? You’re going to have a very Merry Christmas, I’m sure!!!
Post # 32
Your ring is gorgeous!! Congratulations
Post # 33
Congratulations to the OP!! Your ring is lovely! As a new bee who also recently became engaged I share your excitement about this huge step in your relationship and that Christmas came early!
As many strive for life-long learning, I don’t think correcting others is inappropriate. It is the manner in which we do so (choice of speech/words, privately vs publicly, etc.) that may cause the receiver and observers to feel a tad bit uncomfortable. The OP exudes excitement and I know all of us bees (new and seasoned) had no itention to do anything besides celebrate with her!
I found this on the words in question: Much debate and change surrounds the terms fiancé and fiancée in the recent past. English speakers borrowed these gendered terms from the French in the mid-19thcentury, importing both the masculine (fiancé) and feminine (fiancée). This term ultimately derives from Latin, fidare literally meaning “to trust,” combined with the suffix -ance, which is used to form nouns from existing verbs.
But which form should you use when? Traditionally, the masculine form fiancé is used to describe an engaged man, while the feminine form fiancée is used to describe an engaged woman.
The debate over fiancé concerns the borrowed French gender differentiations (the same issue arises with the borrowed French terms blond and blonde). Because English does not have word endings that connote gender, the need to mark the gender of engaged people (or fair-haired people) often seems irrelevant to modern English speakers, especially in light of same-sex marriages and increasing awareness of non-binary gender roles.
Even outside the realm of same-sex marriages, there seems to be an increasing use of fiancé as the unmarked form for both a man and a woman. But as we may expect, this use may be subject to criticism, especially for those who speak a language in which masculine and feminine forms are distinguished from one another.
Post # 34
Congratuations! I love the color, so sweet and feminine!
Post # 35
The fiancé/fiancée thing is my #1 pet peeve on here. I think I show an incredible amount of self restraint by only commenting on it about 1% of the time I see it 😛
But anyway, I don’t want to take away from OPs thread anymore.
Congrats, beautiful ring!
Post # 36
It’s beautiful!!! That setting is amazing and I love love love the depth of the color in your stone. Congratulations!!
Post # 37
Congrats! Your ring is beautiful!
Post # 38
- Wedding: September 2016 - State Park
Congrats!! What a stunning ring!!
Post # 39
Congrats on your holiday proposal Bee! Your ring is gorgeous! 🙂
Post # 40
Congratulations!! Love the details in your ring!!
Post # 41
actually, I am stunned that some “bees” feel it is ok to correct the spelling of a post as a comment…without even acknowledging the content…smh.
Post # 42
I had an account here previously..(before they changed the format even.) I mostly lurk, but was compelled to comment (and set up a new account since I forgot my old info just so I could do so.)
Post # 43
Agree entirely. I was so confused when I first joined and saw how often it happens. It had me second guessing myself most the time early on lol!
Congrats OP! The ring is very gorgeous! Good luck to you with the planning. 🙂
Post # 44
Lovely pink tourmaline! Wow, it’s just gorgeous!! Congratulations!
Post # 45
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
Congratulations! That sounds super sweet. Beautiful ring 🙂