- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Ok, bees. SO and I had a long talk about rings last night, and it’s getting down to the wire (squee!). I originall thought I wanted a moissanite. I love the way they look and obviously love the price. However, SO has been hesitant about the whole non-diamond engagement ring thing. I have made it very clear that I absolutely do NOT want a diamond for many reasons, but he has told me that he at least wants to TELL people it is a diamond. I personally do not care if people know that my ring is not a diamond, but I understand his concern, and since I have completely nixed the diamond idea, I can compromise and get a different stone that will pass as a diamond for his sake.
***READ: If you are even thinking about commenting on here about how much you have a problem with me passing a “fake” off as a diamond, please save your energy. I do not care if you think I’m “dishonest” or whatever word you choose to use. Like I said, I personally do not care whether people know it’s not a diamond. I’m doing this for my SO’s sake because it is important to him, and I understand his position. This thread is NOT intended to start a debate about whether or not it is “right” to pass a CZ or Moissy or whatever off as a diamond. Go somewhere else for that, please.
For the record, we can easily afford a diamond of the same size/quality of the moissy or asha we are looking at, (I would just much rather have that money go toward something else) So I don’t think people will look at it and think it’s not a diamond just because we couldn’t afford a ring that size if it were a diamond. We’re looking into a 1.25ct (7mm) round stone on a simple micropave band. Nothing too fancy or extravagent.
That being said, I started questioning my decision to purchase a moissanite. I do love them oh so much, but I’m afraid it will not pass as a diamond like SO wants it to. Now I have been looking into the Ashas, and I think they are gorgeous in the photos, but I have never seen one in person.
My question is this. Knowing our intentions with this ring, what do you bees think I should do? I know the Ashas don’t last as long as the moissanite, but how long do they really last? Is it going to start getting scratchy or cloudy very soon after I get it? I like the idea of moissanite because it is a forever stone (I don’t plan to “upgrade” to a diamond later, maybe the Amora gem when it becomes available), but will a moissy really pass for a diamond?
Keep in mind, I won’t be taking it to pawn shops and jewelry stores to see if they can tell the difference. I’m just wondering if either of these would pass for a diamond to just every day people, my friends and family who are by no means jewelry experts.
Are there any bees with Ashas or Moissys who can give me any insight on how people react to your stone with regard to it “looking” like a diamond?
Last but not least, I have seen TONS of pictures of moissanites on this forum, but I haven’t seen that many pictures of Ashas! Any of you bees with Ashas, PLEASE post pictures, or direct me to a palce where I can find them (I’m having a hard time navigating the BTD boards).
Thank you, bees! I know I can always count on you!!