Post # 31
I don’t rejoice in anyone’s death, and feel sorry that anyone has died over the fallout from this. However (and this is a big however), I believe in the Biblical principals that (1) what’s done in the dark will be eventually be brought to light by whatever means and (2) one reaps what one sows. Yes, I think it’s terrible that innocent spouses and children are having their family laundry aired for the world to see. And it’s very tempting to blame the hackers. But the tragedies and ensuing family turmoil that now exists are a direct result of the adulterers’ choices. To anyone saying “oh, my family is falling apart due to the revelation that I am a cheater of the worst kind,” I’d reply that they brought it all on themselves.
It’s sort of like someone robbing a bank, thinking they got away with it and then down the line someone sends some cell phone footage to a news station, leading to their eventual capture. Yes the thief was guilty, yes the family is now short a father and husband, but whose fault is it really? The person who anonymously made the information available? Or the person who actually robbed the bank? The answer is obvious to me.
All that said, the hacking was also a choice. And that choice is illegal. And should they be caught (and per my beliefs stated above, they eventually will) they too will have to face the consequences thereof and will be duly deserving of whatever they get.
Post # 32
Although I despise the whole idea behind AM, I am more repulsed by people who take a holier than thou stance, especially where morality is concerned. You don’t like AM? Simple, don’t sign up.
Post # 33
Overjoyed: yes i love this. is was all caused by that person who made this disgusting choice to sign up. they had many times when they could have turned back & they didnt.
Post # 35
lim3: no, what’s cold is to F- other people and then possibly bring home a deadly STD to your partner! Im glad these people got caught, as it may stop some poor unsuspecting person from being further exposed to diseases.
Post # 36
If these people are commiting suicide they have deeper issues than an affair. They should have been aware of the consequences before signing up to the sleeziest thing I’ve ever heard of in my entire life. the chances of getting caught are there without the hack. I think these hackers did a service to the poor spouces. I’m sick of hearing that these cheaters are victims…they’re far from it. Their spouces and children and family are. I can’t believe how hard it is for people to work on their marriages and instead go looking for a cheap thrill. Yuck.
Post # 37
Overjoyed: The Bible also has a story about how Jesus handled the mob that wanted to stone the woman caught in adultery.
“Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.”
Post # 38
5 years ago I found out my then boyfriend was using the site. While I was investigating I know I created a profile using what is now my junk email account, but I cannot remember if I actualy put my real name in anywhere. I can’t imagine that I would have, but the email address could be traced back to me I guess. I’m not really worried becaue everyone who knows me is aware of how and why that relationship ended, but it would suck if coworkers or acquaintances came across my name and thought the worst. I imagine I’m not the only person with this type of concern.
Post # 38
Carolsays: “Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.”
Nope that part is always forgetten when people want to get on their high horses. Because afterall they are perfect until their own shortcomings are exposed.
Post # 40
Of course the hackers are wrong and its illegal , no excuse.
However, I wish people would stop thinking their is such a thing as anonymity on the internet.
Post # 41
Carolsays: bklynbridetobe: Weeell, somehow I don’t think the hackers are good little Christians, so I don’t think they really care about that verse.
But I’m confused. Are you two actually saying that no one should be allowed to view cheaters as doing something wrong?
Post # 42
arabbel: I definitely think cheating is wrong, but I thought the days of making aduterers wear Scarlet A’s for life had ended with the Puritans. The hack does just that — create a digital scarlet A that will follow them for life.
I have been cheated on by boyfriends. The signs were there and a little detective work on my part confirmed it. Didn’t need help from hackers
Post # 43
arabbel: there is a difference between viewing something as wrong and throwing metaphorical stones at someone. you can think something is wrong but not vilify the people who do those bad things.
Post # 44
Carolsays: Right. I mentioned that I don’t think the hackers were right for “casting stones,” and that they too will eventually reap what they have sown. Doesn’t change the fact that the cheaters were dead wrong and that they brought all this upheaval on themselves.
bklynbridetobe: While it is common for people to conveniently set aside this counsel from Jesus, my position is not a case of that. My position is merely that everyone will eventually face judgment for their actions (whether good or bad) either in this life, or in the next. The Ashley Madison folks are simply getting their comeuppance now.
Post # 45
arabbel: Not at all, I certainly make judgements all the time. But in this case a digital witchhunt is very easy to point fingers. But let someone violate your privacy/ issue, whatever it maybe and I think all that “Oh well” bravado would go right out the window.
Example, I’ve talked about my Future Sister-In-Law thru the years on the Bee when our relationship was horrible. It’s been a 180 in terms of us now. Imagine that some hacker would decide oh lets expose our screen names for our RL identities.
Therefore everything your ever expressed in moments of frustration can now be traced back to your real name. It would suck no? How would that benefit me.. I don’t think the hive would be so “ohhhh well” if the shoe was on the other foot of their family dynamics on display for the world to weigh in on, not by a long shot.
The only caveat I give is politicians deciding public policy and two faced religious leaders.