(Closed) Ashley Madison Possible Suicides..

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Post # 91
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303 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If it was a quick curiosity, you shouldn’t ha e anything to worry about. If you’re married and curious perhaps you should get caught before you do anything stupid. If you decided against it after curiosity struck, good for you. Own up to it.

 

solnishko1186:  if you are single, I ask why you are looking to come inbetween a marriage.

any other reason, a quick explanation should suffice for anyone who knows you, unless you are already the cheating type. It can also be easily proven that you are innocent by a quick show of your email.

 

I get that not every person got what was deserved. Heck some couples who have an open marriage may have been exposed. That’s unfair. I wont even get into the other two posts since this one. Fact is, what’s good for the majority isn’t always good for the whole. Some people get hurt (this does NOT pertain to a previous post about countries where murder and such occur over these issues) that didn’t deserve to. But this site needed to take a hit and the people on it needs to come clean. Out of all the names which were released im willing to bet that over 80% of those exposed were not at all innocent.

their spouses are who I feel for.

Post # 92
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2797 posts
Sugar bee

anonladygrace:  From what I have read, about 50% of all users (out of 37 millions) are complete fakes, or users did not sign up themselves (as site does not verify e-mail addresses) That is a huge number, half is not even “real users”.

Also, it has an option for “singles wanting to meet singles”. So it is not just for people in relationships, it has option for singles as well.

Post # 93
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1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

anonladygrace:  Right so, it was morally permissable for those other 20% (the number you arbitrarily chose) to face consequences ranging from job loss, ruined reputation, breakup of their family, and in some parts of the world imprisonment and execution? Wow.

Even for those you consider guilty, it the human cost really worth exposing them? How small minded.

Post # 94
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2986 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

lim3:  what a crock.  Amazing to see that people physically exposing others to deadly  diseases are sympathized with!! While those who publically exposed the misdeeds are crucified!

Definitely a statement as to how far values have fallen.

Post # 95
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940 posts
Busy bee

MrsSnowMountain:  come on now. That’s not at all what she said. Nobody is advocating for anyone to die or be put into prision. Shoving false assumptions into Someone’s opinion doesnt make it true.

Post # 97
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1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

 

Ama14:  You’re right, it’s absolutely comparable to getting a Ph.D to have a basic awareness that other places in the world might treat adultery and homosexuality differently and more harshly.

Post # 98
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2797 posts
Sugar bee

Ama14:  Idk about you, but if I post an opinion on something, I read as much information as possible from different sources to form that opinion (in this case, US news, British news, canadian news, etc..also economic, social, IT, money, pshychology publications, not just “yahoo news”).

If I do not care about a particular subject, I do not participate in a forum that discusses that subject. If one is “interested enough” to participate in a forum discussion, should be informed enough about it.

Opinion without facts are what I would call argument from ignorance. “You are not entitled to your opinion. You are only entitled to what you can argue for.”

And I have no personal attachments to the issue. It is just interesting, from sociological side, to see how people react to those issues, how powerful media is in persuading the masses and so on.

Post # 99
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940 posts
Busy bee

MrsSnowMountain:  I’m sorry. But not everyone is going to share your opinions on everything. A couple weeks ago people were calling for the head of a dentist for killing a lion. What side of that were you on? i don’t feel sympathy for those who’ve cheated and got caught. I’m not required too and I am not a terrible person for not allowing someone online to bully me into changing my opinion. a majority of us have stated we feel horrible for the families effected. But the blame for that lies with the cheating men and women who considered noone else except themselves. Burn me at the stake… Whateves 🙂

Post # 100
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940 posts
Busy bee

solnishko1186:  well good for you on wasting time forming an opinion about something like AM hack. That’s not me. I’m not ignorant and I’m actually able to form an opinion without the media telling me the proper side to be on. Nobody is sayin anyone deserved to die. Or be put in prison. I can browse and comment where I’d like to. I’m curious tho… when someone asks a question on here about how to handle a family situation or relationship issue do you spend hours researching before you respond?

Post # 101
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1368 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ama14:  I said absolutely nothing that implied you MUST have sympathy for cheaters. I simply pointed out that many innocent people will suffer as collateral damage. I’m sorry you feel that I’m bullying you by posting some articles and quotes that demonstrate the human cost and suffering of this issue we are discussing. I apologize for my slight snarkiness above, but I do think it’s worthwhile to be informed rather than pass blanket moral judgements. I truly hope you can come to a place of having more compassion someday. 

Post # 102
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2797 posts
Sugar bee

Ama14:  No, I do not “spend hours researching before I [sic] respond” if it is a question regarding a family or relationship issue, but I do ask OP to clarify/provide additional facts, if needed, to give a constructive, un-biased response.

This is a post about a media story, referencing suicides, not a personal issue. And in your previous response, you have stated you have not read up any stories regarding AM related suicides. How can you provide feedback on a topic, that you admitted, you read nothing about.

Post # 103
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494 posts
Helper bee

I think it’s terrible and so sad that people have committed suicide and love ones have been lost as the result of this hack.  I don’t feel that anyone is deserving of that.  However, if I was someone who was going to use a site like Ashley Madison, I would take into account that it is a website that is going to cause a lot of anger and resentment from many people, and that eventually someone is going to try to do something radical to shut it down.  That would be enough for me to never consider adding my personal information, address, credit cards, or just signing up in general.  I understand what pp are saying when they say “this information is not for the general public to know, relationship issues should be kept private between the two individuals in said marriage/relationship”.  I agree with that.  Only thing is…when a husband or wife signed up on this site, they have gone outside of their marriage and publicly put themselves out there on the internet, and shared very personal, identifying information.  Yes I agree that realationship issues should be kept private, however that is hard to do when one half of a partnership decided to go not only outside the relationship, but ONLINE, for the sole purpose of cheating.  I feel bad for the families and spouses who have been hurt by this.  But do I feel that the users of this site are victims?  Not really, because they signed up, knowing full well what they were doing, knowing that-regardless of security promises by the website-they were still adding their very personal information to a website that was going to be the focus of some heavy ridicule, disgust and hatred.  It really was only a matter of time before something like this happened, and I feel like that is something that should have been taken into account when these people were signing up to use it.      

Post # 104
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940 posts
Busy bee

MrsSnowMountain:  I’m actually a very compassionate person. Thanks for placing judgment based on my opinion of this. Shows how well you read people. I dont know if youre aware of this or not… But if these hackers get caught they’ll get punished to the full extent of the law. My opinion on it won’t effect that. I have compassion for the kids who are stoken from their homes and sold into sex slavery. I have compassion for the familes who are destroyed when someone molested Their children and the kids lives who are destroyed from it. I have compassion for the young volenteer I know whose husband was just killed in a car accident that left her paralyzed. And I have loads of compassion for the women/men and children whose lives are destroyed because “daddy” or “mommy” contracted hiv becsuse they cheated. I don’t have compassion for selfish self loving people. if that makes me a bad person so be it. 

Post # 105
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827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

MrsSnowMountain:  Thank you for bringing such important information/insight to the thread and for reminding people of just how dangerous the consequences could be as a result of the hack. So many lives will be affected, I cannot understand those who have no compassion whatsoever. It seems so very black and white to them. I couldn’t think of a disaster with more grey areas. I’ve been cheated on in the past. I know the pain of all that, but never would I condone or ‘applaud’ the behaviour of the hackers. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.

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