Post # 92
@peonyinparis: omg i totally know what you mean! in our culture too, my fsil is engaged to a serbian guy and everyone is treating it like its an achievement or something?
and! I just got back from getting IPL and when the lady finds out im engaged to another filipino she says “thats unusual isnt it? Girls from philippines normally have white husbands, ive never met one who was with the same race”. What the!
Post # 93
I’m the 5’5″ Asian girl with a 6’2″ white boy! 😛 A lot of my family assume that I prefer white guys because I grew up in Canada, but that’s not true at all – I’ve always been open to dating all races. I do, however, look young for my age and SO looks older than he is, so I don’t know if people think weird things when they see us together – even though we’re actually only 2 years apart.
This thread is so interesting and so relevant to me/my friends. In fact, my posts about yellow fever are the most popular ones on my blog! From an insider’s point of view, I think a lot of us Asian girls (who grew up in non-Asian countries) get our hackles raised when we are approached by non-Asian guys who make comments about our Asian-ness, because we don’t want to be objectified and/or fetishized. It’s always a turn-off when a guy says he dates Asian women exclusively. Like everyone else, we want to be recognized and appreciated as individuals. Having said that, there’s nothing wrong with having visual preferences…so I think it’s just a matter of whether or not guys come off as creepy. “I just LOOOVE the culture so much!” usually isn’t a very convincing excuse. 😛
Like PPs said, I only think it’s weird when I see couples with a huge age gap and/or no common language – regardless of race.