Post # 1
Okay so its widely known that asians always show up to weddings right before the food is about to get served. Invite says 6 but ppl show up a lil before 8 pm. Thing is to be able to enjoy my wedding i would like the food served at 7 pm so I am able to actually eat. (When my sister got married she only had time to eat one course out of the eight served that night. she had to do table greetings which took 2 hours. 40 tables. yikes) so is it up to me to let people no that this is not a typical wedding. and that I am starting the banquet at exactly 7pm and not 8? how do I tell people. should I include a note with the invitation? example: photo booth from 5-6:30, 6:30 introductions, 7 banquet starts. 8:30 cake cutting and first dance. what do you think? help please.
Post # 3
I made this clear to my parents to let their friends know what type of wedding I’m having (not a Chinese banquet thing) I asked my parents (since they go house to house to formally invite their guest) to let them know it’s an Americanized wedding, that when I say the wedding’s starting at 4pm I sure will be walking down that aisle whether the guest are there or not. The reception is at the same venue so HOPEFULLY people won’t think to leave and come back for dinner. My Fiance and I have no problem talking to our friends but when it comes to my parent’s friends I had them handle it.
The thing is when some people are used to "strolling" in to a wedding whenever they please they may not know that’s bad etiquette. Who are these people that are always late? Family? Friends? Your choice of words will help ease the awkwardness. gLuck! Next on the list… When your guest RSVP for 4 or more YIKES!
Post # 4
I’ll be telling my guests to come 30 to 45 min before the actual start time. So I told my vendors that the wedding starts at 4:00 to 4:15 pm, but in my invitations, I wrote 3:30 pm. That gives me bit of a leeway.
I never minded a wedding that started late bc i always ended up catching up wtih friends or what not, but having a wedding start on time and walking down the aisle with no guest, I do mind. So, for those guests that do come on time, i’m sure 30 to 45 minutes will fly by, and for the guests that do arrive late, they are right on time… =)
Post # 5
Thanks for the replies guys!
Post # 6
I can totally sympathize with you. One thing to keep in mind, though, is that there is ALWAYS someone who is going to show up late, then get upset that they didn’t get as much food as they want. However, that was their responsibility – you do what you can to alert them of the schedule. Don’t get upset over something like that.
The other thing that you can do is to call the people that you suspect will be the most likely offenders, and really drive the point home that if they don’t show up on time, there will NOT be food for them. As much as people like to be late, usually the threat of missing out on great food(especially with Asian people) is enough of a motivator. 🙂
Worse comes to worse, notify your vendors that there will be late guests. If it’s possible, they can see about keeping the food warm somehow(if you’re having a seated dinner).
The most important thing to remember is that it’s your wedding day! Delegate the task! After all, you don’t have that many family members for no reason! They want it to go off without a hitch too, so let them help! 🙂
Post # 7
If you’re worried a significant amount off ppl will be arriving on AST (Asian Standard Time) I would include a note in the form of another reception card titled "Schedule of Events." Most ppl will show up for the food so I would just be clear when dinner will be served! 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks for the tips guys! I will def. include a schedule of events!
Post # 9
my invitations (on the chinese written side) said something along the lines of doors open at 6pm and dinner is served at 7pm even though we didn’t serve until 7:30pm. I wanted everyone there for the dinner program – intro, lion dance, first dance, cake cutting. – all happened before dinner started. all my guests arrived by 7pm! 🙂 my dj who normally do chinese banquet weddings was very impressed that all my chinese guests were on time.