Post # 1
OK ladies, here’s my question.
I have four bridesmaids. I didn’t ask anyone to be Maid/Matron of Honor because I am good friends with all of them, however, I always sort of thought of two of them as my MOHs. Now that our wedding is just over three months away and I haven’t spoken to the other two bridesmaids in months, I’m thinking it might be a good idea to make the two (who I wanted originally) MOHs.
Is it ok to ask them to be MOHs now, eight months after I asked them to be in the wedding? I know the other two won’t care, as I am closer to the two that I want to ask. Or should I just suck it up and have four bridesmaids and no MOH? It’s certainly helpful to have a MOH–I’ve been doing everything on my own and realize now that I probably should’ve done this to begin with. But is it too late?
Thanks for your advice!
Post # 3
I don’t think so. And I’ve heard of people having two MOHs. I think you’re fine. If you want to say you didn’t ask at first because you were thinking of not having a Maid/Matron of Honor, fine. But I don’t know that that is necessary.
If you want to honor the girl(s) whom you will get more help from and feel closer to, don’t sweat it any longer. Just ask them.
Post # 4
I don’t see a problem with that. Chances are, they’ll be happy to help you in any way that they can. If you are sure the other two Bridesmaid or Best Man do not mind, I say go for it!
Post # 5
I originally just had my brother as my man of honor. But, then one of my bridesmaids flew across the country to take me shopping for my wedding dress, and got roped into planning my bachelorette party because my brother lives really far away from everyone else. So, I just went ahead and changed it on the website, and told her I wanted her to have special honors for all the work she’s done, and because she’s my best lady 😉
It made us both happy.
Don’t hesitate to ask them. I’m sure they’ll appreciate it.
Post # 6
I only have 3 bridesmaids, all are good friends. Right now I don’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor because I didn’t want to choose. But now I think I’m going to ask 1 of them, the one I’ve been friends with the longest. So guess we’re kind of in the same situation. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with 2 or with asking them now!
Post # 7
Maybe it will be easier to broach if you bring up like you didn’t want to hurt thier feelings. Tell them that you though that you were afraid to ask them before because you didn’t want them to be upset that you wanted them to share the lime light but that you really would like them both to share the job.
My FIs brother had 2 best men. My Fiance and their best friend. My Fiance was the best man at the wedding and was responsible there. Once they got to the reception they traded places and their bff did the speach. Cute idea. And that way they had someone to help them in the bachelor party planning.
Post # 8
Tiffany7941, I think your two friends would be honored, even at this point. Go ahead and ask them!! Even better that the other two won’t be offended.
Am in the same situation. I have 3 girls who are my best friend, one who has been my friend since I was 14. Two others my best girls in college and still today. The last is my cousin. Well my cousin and I got into a huge fight last yr and didn’t speak for months. Mind you, we always said we would be in each others wedding. So now my cousin and I are speaking and I am at a loss as to who to ask to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. The relationship with my cousin has not been "the same" am not even sure if I should include her but I think she would be offended and we are trying to repair our friendship…. any advice?
Post # 9
I think they will be honored, which is the point, after all! I asked four ladies to be my BMs and then two to be my MOHs, and it is working out beautifully.