Post # 1
OK So I am about to send out my invitation and I am asking those ppl I want to invite for address…so far no one return my e-mail/ messages…I feel a little bit hurt now…
Should I call them up to ask for address? I think maybe they are trying to avoid me so I don’t want to be pushy and do not want to make an impression that I am begging them to come.. 🙁
Any advice? Thanks.
Post # 3
I’d wait a few days and maybe call or text them. We just sent out our STD’s and there were a few people that we sent a text asking for their addresses & it took them a day or two to respond. There is still just one person that I’m waiting on but I sent them a message on facebook for it so I figure they probably don’t check it very often.
Post # 4
Is there someone else you can get the addresses from? My mom gave me the addresses for her side, Future Mother-In-Law for her side, and I had all our friend’s addresses from holiday cards etc. Anyone that I don’t have I was able to get from the person or someone else. good luck!
Post # 5
How long have you been waiting for a response?
I wouldn’t be too terribly worried…a lot of people don’t check their e-mail often!
Post # 6
aww i’m sorry it is making you feel sad 🙁 I’m sure people care! We do!
Post # 7
In my culture it is propper etiquete to invite by phone an then send the invitation. So, during the phone conversation I would get the address. It is lenghty process, but at least it gets the job done.
Post # 8
I would give it a few more days. sometimes people dont check their email as frequently as you think.
Post # 9
I would suggest calling. Some people are just not that reliable via email/message. Emails and messages allow us to put things off–“Oh, I’ll call her back tomorrow”, “Oh I’ll give her the address when I call her. I’ve been meaning to call her!” If you call her directly and she answers, it will take her 3 seconds to tell you the address and she can’t put it off. We’ve all put things off before and forgot about them so give them another chance. But if you call and leave another message and hear nothing for 3 more days, I say don’t sent the invite. There’s only so much you can do.
Post # 10
Try http://www.whitepages.com/ I was able to get 90% of my addresses off of that site and I was able to make sure I had names spelled correctly and spouses names. (My mo was horrible at remembering family members names)
Post # 11
@LittleBruin: I’m sorry to hear you’re having a difficult time with addresses and all. Don’t take an offense to it, if many of your guests are like mine, Chinese…they usually receive their invitations by hand and don’t do the whole sending back RSVP stuff as well. Maybe you can ask your family or fiance to reach out to these people like “We’re addressing our invitations..not sure if you sent my fiance your address yet, but if not, plese do so soon”.
Btw, completely out of context, but did you go to UCLA? hehe..your username has Bruin on it. Just curious!
Post # 12
They might just be superbusy and haven’t caught up on e-mails. I wouldn’t take it personally.
Post # 13
Hi, Yes I went to UCLA! Good guess!
Fiance is going to hand-deliver some of our invitations. I don’t know if we can hand-deliver all of them..we don’t have the time. =(
By the way, some of them get back to me pretty quick. I feel much better now!
Post # 14
Oh cool! I’m a follow Bruin too! Yes, hand deliver might be the best option for the older Chinese generation! Good luck planning! Everything will fall into place and all these little things won’t matter once it’s all said and done.