Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a really small wedding-maybe 15 people, 20 at most. Because it’s just really close friends and family we didn’t want to have official bridesmaids and groomsmen, because it would be most of the wedding standing with us. We’ll still find a way to tell some of them how special they are to us- I might get my sister a corsage to single her out and a boutinier for my dad. The only thing I don’t like about this is I really want to take pics with some of the girls that are special to me/moms/dad/ etc after the ceremony. My idea is to ask people to wear different shades of blue. We’re getting married outdoors at Garden of the Gods and the background will be big orange rock figures so we thought blue would look really cool. Also, because I’m sure it would be hard for everyone to coordinate to wear the same blue, I’d rather it be intentionally different shades of blue, we might say grey is an okay color too. The only thing I’m wondering is, if you were a guest, would this be an inconvenient or unreasonable request to you? At the end of the day, if someone doesn’t wear blue I’m not going to freak out, I just think it would be nice for pictures.
Post # 3
You can’t tell/demand people wear a particular color, however I do not find it unreasonable to be lighteartedly asked to maybe incorporate the wedding colors. Spread the information via word of mouth but make sure your guests know it isn’t a requirement.
Post # 4
I wanted to do the exact same thing, and I said on our website that “it might be fun” if people wore blue in any shade. Of course,hardly anyone will wear blue, as I have found out since. C’est la vie.
It still would have been fun though…
Post # 5
@kshult13: yes i think saying itd be nice via word of mouth is fine rather than demanding it is fine.
And there are loads of shades of blue. Ppl only get irritated when the bride *demands* guests wear dresses in a randim shade of coral or4 mint green that no one ever owns
Post # 6
I think you could ask, since your wedding is going to be a small one.
I was thinking maybe you could get pashmina’s for the pictures for people that don’t show up in blue, but in August in Colorado, I’m not sure that would work very well.
Post # 7
My brother and SIL kind of did this for their Destination Wedding wedding and no one minded. They asked the younger men, who would probably have been in the Bridal Party, to wear tan suits. They asked the younger ladies to wear tropical solid dresses.
My brother didn’t ask one of his really good friends to wear a tan suit, I think b/c he knew his friend didn’t have a lot of money, and I think the friend was a little bummed. My sister’s then fiance, now husband, was also a little put off that he wasn’t asked to wear a tan suit.
So I think what you’re doing is almost better, asking them to try and wear blue or gray if possible.
Post # 8
@newname_99: that’s kinda what I was thinking too. A lot of people have something blue or grey in their closets. I am definitely not the demanding type.
Post # 9
I started reading and thought no way but if you are having a very small wedding with immediate friends and family you can certainly ask nicely. Even if 2/3 turn up in blue it will be sufficient to make it the dominant colour in your pictures and get the affect you want.
Post # 10
@Bubbles42: thanks for the insight about not asking some people. I know my mom generally doesn’t have a lot of money, so I was thinking about not asking her, but I can definitely see how someone could kind of feel left out. It’s one thing if they just decide not to do it, but it kinda sucks if you’re not asked to.
Post # 11
@kshult13: Yeah. My mom doesn’t have a lot of money either so I try to be really careful not to make her feel hurt that she can’t contribute to my wedding. So I guess you can just tell people that you’d love it if they can wear shades of blue or gray, if they wouldn’t mind. I also like the pashmina idea.