(Closed) Ask someone to be a Bridesmaid because she asked you?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yeah, that’s odd to me. I’ve been in nine weddings, and there’s no way I was about to ask all nine of them to stand up there with me! I asked three girls, my two close friends and my cousin, because we are close and they mean a lot to me. Asking someone as an obligation is a horrible idea because neither the bride nor the Bridesmaid or Best Man will be happy about the situation. It sounds awkward to me!

Post # 4
2701 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think that’s normal. I too have been in a number of weddings and I didn’t ask any of those girls to be BMs.

Post # 5
7 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’ve seen that stuff happen – a bride asks her old high school friend to be in her wedding, yet they haven’t seen each other for 5 years. I think it’s SO silly. You want to pick people that you couldn’t imagine spending that day without. Also, people just add people to their side to make the sides even – that’s all for show.

I say, just chose who you love. Feelings may get hurt, but you’re under no obligation to do anything you don’t want. Some people have no wedding parties, some people have their mom up there with them, some chose a woman for the best man – it’s not sincere if you do something just because you think you “should”. 

You’re right in thinking that it’s odd!

Post # 6
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

I find that unusual as well.  I couldn’t imagine having girls in my wedding that I’m not close to.  I was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in a couple of girls weddings back in my college days, but we rarely speak now.  I think your wedding party should be made up of people whom you connect with on many levels.

Post # 7
377 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

It sounds silly to me. But then, I am not a traditionalist at all. Maybe she feels like it’s the polite thing to do.

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