(Closed) Ask your family and friends for advice on naming baby or keep it secret?

posted 7 years ago in Names
  • poll: Would you ask your family and friends to helop you pick your baby's name?
    Yes I would like their input : (17 votes)
    16 %
    No I don't want anyone to affect our choice : (92 votes)
    84 %
  • Post # 34
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    Busy Beekeeper

    i would never ask their advice. But as for keeping it a secret that’s up to you. i know my family and friends can be very opinionated and right now Darling Husband and I are happy and excited with the name we chose, so i decided to keep it secret for as long as possible.

    Post # 35
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    7295 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @CaptainSpaulding:  LOL, just reading the first half of your sentence, my jaw dropped! then i finished it and read that you are not yet pregnant!!

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    We didn’t ask anyone for their opinion because we don’t care what they think, it’s our baby, not theirs.

    Post # 37
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    When/if I find myself in the family way, I don’t plan on asking for advice or even telling people our name choices. I don’t really care what other people think – it’s our baby. 🙂

     

    Post # 38
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @funkymunky85:  I don’t so much mean bad memories.  For example – I wouldn’t care if my mom once dated a guy with the name X who broke up with her or if my dad taught a kid named X who was a brat.

    I more mean things that could truely make a name a bad choice for me (awful initials or something – it is hard to come up with examples of what I would truely find significant and care about until being in the situation).

    Post # 40
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    140 posts
    Blushing bee

    When I eventually have a baby shower I want everyone to write down what they think the baby’s name should be. Prizes will be awarded for popular opinion and our opinion on funniest name, name most likely to be used for upcoming baby, name most appropriate to couple’s personality, and prize for the actual chosen name if anyone gets it, etc. But that will be the extent of my invitation for friends and family to help, and by then, the name for the incubating baby will probably be decided, since I have SO and I have at least faves for first names in mind.

    Post # 43
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1992

    I wouldn’t ask for advice, nor would I share too early what the name is. My family is the type to complain if they don’t like it, instead of politely keeping in mind that it’s our choice to make.

    Post # 44
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @MrsWBS:  I definitely agree. I think my parents would be supportive, even if they didn’t like the name they chose I doubt they’d ever tell me. But Future Mother-In-Law would totally wrinkle her nose and do her ridiculous laugh to any name she didn’t pick out – pretty much her reaction to any decision she doesn’t get her way on. But I really like the idea of narrowing it down then choosing once you see your little one. Although I know myself and I’ll probably fall in love with one particular name (okay, secretly I already have even though I’m not pregnant) – but no final decisions until I see him/her!

    Post # 46
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    Blushing bee

    What a timely topic! I’m not even engaged yet, but out of the blue one day recently (we must have been talking about kids) my SO informed me that when we get pregnant, his mom (who is a schoolteacher) will be giving us a “huuuuuuge list” of names we can’t use, due to associations with awful children that she’s taught over the years!

    I was totally taken aback! I don’t think I came up with any sort of coherent response, but I was thinking – “Is she the one going to be carrying your baby?? If not, then she doesn’t get to tell us what to name it!” Seeing this thread gives me a little confidence that my reaction wasn’t totally crazy – it looks like most people here want to be able to choose their children’s names without giving the future-grandparents veto power!

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