Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2014 - Catholic Church and Lord Hill Farms
I am in a pickle on what to do and could use the beehives help. I asked my sister and 4 closest friends to be my bridesmaids and all excepted. One ‘K’ just got married in september. Shortly after their wedding she found out she was pregnant and is due a week before the wedding. She told me she wants to basically be a bridesmaid without wearing the dress and walking down the aisle. I plan on having her sit up front but should I get her a bouquet or corsage? Do I have her at the head table? do I include her in official BMs shots even though she wont be in the dress? Im not sure I guess whether to treat her as a BMs or like a family member who isnt in the wedding party…
please give me your 2 cents! thanks ya’ll!
Post # 3
I would treat her the same as any other Bridesmaid or Best Man, just have her wear a dress similar to the other BMs that is more accommodating for the belly, and have her sit at the front instead of stand. As for the rest, if she is still able to attend, then have her do everything the bridesmaids normally do. Sit at the head table, pictures together, etc.
Post # 4
@Amitchell12: I would not have her in the bridesmaids’ photos, or at least do some without her, because it’d be weird her not matching. But I would have some separate special photos with her, perhaps just you and her.
I like the idea of her sitting up front with a corsage or bouquet, like a family member.
With a newborn baby, I think it’d be easier for her to sit with her husband (and baby of course), not at the head table.
Post # 5
If you love her and she’s one of your best friends (I’m assuming she is since you asked her to be a BM), what the heck does it matter if her dress matches or not? The sitting and other accomodations I can completely understand because they’re for her comfort, but unless she specifically asks not to be included in the pics, I don’t understand why you’d exclude her. Is having matching dresses in your “official” pics really more important to you than seeing your closest friends standing with you on your wedding day?
Post # 6
@Amitchell12: If it were my best friend would ask her to buy a dress in the same or similar color to the bridesmaids and have her in the pictures. There is a good chance my best friend will be pregnant when I get married and I would be upset if she wasn’t in my pictures.
Post # 7
I think you could go either way!
Treat her like a family member (have her sit up front with a corsage but with limited pictures), or find a dress in a similar cut/color and have her take pictures with the BMs!