(Closed) Asked for an address but I already know we're RSVPing No…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How should I respond?
    Here's our address (don't tell them we can't go yet...) : (17 votes)
    36 %
    Sorry we can't go, save your invite! : (12 votes)
    26 %
    Sorry we can't go, but here is our address! (and save your invite?) : (17 votes)
    36 %
    Other... please elaborate... : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    9074 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I’d RSVP no.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    @elysion:  Keep it simple and straight forward:

    “Thank you so much for thinking of us. Unfortunately we are unable to make it to your amazing wedding due to vacation time restraints. We wanted to let you know now so that we could save you an invitation. 

    Just for future reference though, our address is:

    Have an amazing time, we’ll be thinking of you.

     Love,

    X and X” 

    That way they can still send an invite if they really want to, but don’t have to and can save on postage etc. And handwriting! One less address for them to write out. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @Everdeen:  +1. That’s a really classy way of handling it

    Post # 8
    Member
    3639 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

     @babecake: Thank you so much for saying so. 🙂

    @elysion:  Oh thanks! No worries at all, glad that I could help.

      

    Post # 9
    Member
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee

    You shouldn’t respond to something you haven’t been invited it.  It looks presumptuous (even though you are probably right).  I would just wait until you get the invite and respond accordingly.

    Post # 10
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    3238 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @andielovesj:  she wasn’t invited, but was informally asked to save the date. It’s understood that if someone is asking you to save the date, they will be inviting you. I don’t think it’s presumptuous to respectfully decline in advance. As a destination bride, I’d be very pleased that you thought enough to let me save my invitation (even if I was a little disappointed that u couldn’t make it).

    In other news: 60 hours roundtrip?! She’s gotta know that most of her invitees aren’t coming. I’m sure she’s prepared for the eventuality that you can’t come. I wouldn’t sweat.

     

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