Post # 17
I think it’s time to reduce your bridal party or find another friend to ask.
You should still have a (verbal, not typed) conversation with her in which you let her know you realized you were asking a lot of a friend you don’t see for years at a time, but you should accept now that she’s not going to stand up for you at your wedding. And you should make it clear she’s still invited to the wedding if she wants to come.
Post # 18
I feel like it’s an honor to be asked to be a bridesmaid
@misslala: Not everyone feels this way. In fact, I have always seen being asked to be a bridesmaid as a nuissance. Even though I am going to be a bride myself, I still feel this way. Of course this isn’t true for everyone, my girls feel honored to be asked for some strange reason (asked with gift boxes, they’re long distance). I don’t think there is a right or wrong with this, just giving you a different perpective of how other people see being asked to be in the wedding party.
Post # 19
I’m also going to echo that it’s probably a no, but she is too nice to actually say it.
I had this problem with my cousin, actually–I sent my BMs cards, and never heard back from her. I waited two weeks (not wanting to spoil the surprise), and finally she messaged me and said that she’d JUST found the card in her husband’s car. Apparently he’d grabbed the mail the day it came in, threw it in his back seat, and it promptly disappeared. She said that he was in big trouble, and that they both apologized. I was just glad that she got it, haha.
Post # 20
If it’s not a yes, it’s a no. And if she can’t actually reply to that, I wouldn’t trust her to reply to anything else.. That sucks. You’d really think someone could at least reply.