Post # 1
A client today asked me today “are you worried your husband might kill you”?????
See, my hubby is South African and apparently since Oscar Pistorious killed his girlfriend, I should be worried too!
What I am angry about is the fact that I just giggled and said “no”.
I am not great at quick comebacks and it was a client but now I am so upset that people can be so stupid and I didnt educate her or at least made a comment so she felt like an ass…. urgh……
It was hard enough getting the questions “oh, Africa, is your husband black?” or “guess he is getting his green card…. nudge nudge”.
What would you have said????????
Post # 3
“Are YOU worried your husband might kill you for being such an insensitive prick?”
Post # 4
I wouldn’t have said anything because she was being dumb and she wasn’t thinking. Everyone has said something stupid at one point or another.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
I would have responded “are you?”
Post # 6
Probably best that you didn’t say anything though, if it was a client…
Post # 7
@nonapkns: Oh you gotta have fun with this. I’d probably be like, “I’m terrified, but I have no money and no where to go. Can you help me?!?!?!?!”
Post # 8
@housebee: HAHAHAHA!!! Love this!!!
Post # 9
I work with a lot of older people so I hear it all…. and never say anything rude back, but some people have a knack for quick come-backs. Not necessarily mean. My husband actually has a gift for that.
Post # 10
Saying “no” should suffice.
I have a lot of South African friends. They are teachers, and the first things kids usually ask them when they say where they are from, is “How come you’re not black?”
Post # 11
Let’s see….if someone asked me “Are you afraid your husband might kill you?”
I’d be flabbergasted that they actually asked, and be like.
“yessss!” all whispery and looking around.
Then I’d lean in REAL close and open my eyes all huge and be like…
“You have to help me! Meet me in the Walmart parking lot at 2:13am!”
and run away….it will totally blow their mind!
Post # 12
Meh, it was just a dumb comment. Not particularly funny, but neither do I find it particularly offensive.
I’m usually not that quick-witted either, so I probably would have just said, “Uh… no.”
Post # 13
WOW Okay I admit that I am a somewhat socially awkward person and prone to saying the wrong thing if I’m not paying attention but WHO SAYS SOMETHING LIKE THAT. It’s like a record setting achievement of rudeness. Please tell me you were sitting here like…
Post # 15
I’m sorry that people can be so stupid. My husband is Korean, and I have had a ridiculous amount of people ask if he has a small penis. I just started asking if their boyfriend/SO has a small penis lol. It truly astounds me how 1. Some people think it’s okay to ask inappropriate questions that have nothing to do with them and 2. Believe in stereotypes/that people from the same country/race/etc. all behave the same exact same way. If it’s a client, I would definitely just ask if they’re afraid that their husband will kill them and so they realize how inappropriate it was. Giggling and saying no also works. 🙂
Post # 16
@Nona99: HAHAHAHAHA! YES! This!!
@nonapkns: unfortunately old people seem to have knack of asking the most inappropriate offensive questions and seem to get away with it!! You can either take it light heartedly and try and think of a funny response or just smile and keep working. A response like Nona99 will have the old dear gossiping for days!! Sure it’s not true but old people love a chance to gossip and bitch 😉