(Closed) Asked to throw bridal shower- don't know bride

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 46
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

The fact that she went off on you like this, is exactly the reason that you should not have done or said anything different.

This woman probably gets her way in life by threatening people and making them so uncomfortable that they can’t stand up to her. That kind of behavior should never be rewarded.

Frankly, I would have been tempted to copy her remarks onto my Facebook page, rather than delete everything like you did.

Post # 47
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Buzzing bee

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loneranger13:  Oh, honey! You have done nothing wrong. She has done EVERYTHING wrong by being unbelievably presumptuous, immature, self-centered and all around rude. And the groom has seen the messages – the facts speak for themselves. Hang in there, and hold your head high! It sucks to be in your position right now, but in the long run you are helping this girl do some badly-needed growing up. (She is clearly SO not ready to be married!)

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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loneranger13:  This girl is awful. She is rude, bratty, tactless, immature and certainly not grown up enough to be getting married. She brought this drama on herself it has absolutely nothing to do with you – with her attitude and behaviour she was a ticking time bomb and it was only going to be so long before the whole thing blew up in her face.. Im just sorry you were the one in the middle of it all! 

I honestly can’t believe this sort of thing happens in real life its INSANE!!! This girl needed a HUGE wake up call and hopefully this is it! 

I understand how awful it would be to experience her going off at you and screaming ridiculous insults but clearly none of them are true so don’t spend another moment worrying about it! Jeez she is a piece of work.. Yikes! 

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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loneranger13:  She is still entirely in the wrong. You cannot reason with unreasonable people. She clearly has issues that extend far beyond the wedding. She didn’t want her groom to know that she had been lying and behaving badly. She lied. You didn’t. You did not ruin anything. It is natural to get upset about someone spreading lies about you to family and friends/aquaintances. She is throwing a tantrum because she is not getting a bridal shower. You have never been responsible for that, and she should never have asked you to plan the shower. If she cannot accept that she is not entitled to a bridal shower, then she is the only person who is making herself unhappy.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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loneranger13:  oh my word. You have not ruined anyone’s life!! This girl is throwing a temper tantrum bc she isn’t getting her way, and now her Fiance saw the real her. DO NOT feel bad for standing up for youself(or your brother doing it for you) so this crazy spoiled brat could talk shit about you and skew peoples thoughts about you. 

She has no class for screaming at you loud enough for the neighbors to hear. you did NOTHING wrong!

Post # 51
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I can’t believe this! You shouldnt second guess yourself you handled the situation with perfect class! I would love to think I could have handled it as well as you, but no way. 

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Post # 52
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I would never have imagined that this would turn out like this, but she is obviously immature.  I know you’re probably upset about this right now, but this will be a funny story to tell about bridezillas in the future.  Thank goodness you aren’t going to the wedding or in her bridal party.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

what a BITCH. and you’re not even invited? i’m sorry, but i’d have a problem if someone asked me to throw a bridal a shower and didn’t invite me. 

Post # 54
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185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Keep us updated about whether the wedding is still on. After the groom’s reaction, nothing would surprise me.

Post # 55
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1934 posts
Buzzing bee

Is this real life? Holy shit. 

Post # 56
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833 posts
Busy bee

Wow. Just wow. I can’t even.

You have nothing wrong, and I’m glad your brothers stood up for you. You can’t stop crazy.

Post # 57
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1338 posts
Bumble bee

You shouldn’t waste any time feeling bad about it. She’s clearly awful and is ‘ruining’ her own bridal experience all by herself.

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I guess what I don’t understand is this: why would the groom still want to marry this harpy after seeing who she truly is on the inside when she doesn’t get her way?

Post # 59
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’ve taken a few things from this situation:

1. B*tches be cray.

2. You have fantastic brothers. Kudos to them for standing up for you.

3. This wedding probably won’t happen and if it does good luck to the groom.

4. You are a strong person for handling that. That girl is a maniac. 

5. I’m the same age as her and I want to punch her in the face for what she said to you. I always get the whole “you’re such a young bride” schpiel and people like her don’t help the young bride cause lol. 

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