Asking a bridesmaid late?

posted 2 weeks ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Should I ask her?
    Yes : (25 votes)
    93 %
    No : (2 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 2
    977 posts
    Busy bee

    You’re not using her as a “replacement” so I think it’d be all good! Just tell her how you feel honestly and I think she’ll be honored! 

    “Hey Jane! When I asked my bridesmaids X amount of time ago, we weren’t quite as close friends as we are today. And recently I was thinking about how close we have gotten and how much I’d regret not having you in my bridal party so- will you be my bridesmaid? I’d love to have you standing up with me!” Something like that. 

    Post # 3
    141 posts
    Blushing bee

     I think you should absolutely ask her! I don’t see anything wrong with it. You’ve grown much closer and now you want her by your side on your wedding day. Nothing you said is bad and it makes sense! Just be honest with her and say that now that you’re closer you would really love for her to be in your bridal party.

    Post # 4
    12224 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    A year away is more than early enough and it makes sense that you might have asked close family members only that far out. I would just ask her. 

    Post # 5
    33 posts
    • Wedding: October 2020

    how many groomsmen are there? will both sides match? I know ppl say all the time that doesn’t matter but it rly bothers me that mine aren’t matching. I wish my fiance’ had more friends so I could have more bridesmaids! lol 

    Post # 7
    278 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2019

    A year is plenty of time.

    My friend already had her entire bridal party selected by the time we met. She kept telling me she’d wished we met before she got engaged so I could be a bridesmaid. A couple months went by and she asked me anyway. I said yes without hesitation.

    Post # 8
    422 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2020 - Round Rock, TX

    valleytine :  Definitely ask her!! I’ve been engaged for a year, and my wedding is a little over two months away. I asked all my BMs back in march, but just decided last month to ask my SIL after we had a really great bonding moment at a family gathering. She is thrilled and cried when I asked her! she absolutely did not feel like a replacement or less special because it was late. It meant a lot to her and I am excited for her to stand up there with me! If she means a lot to you, definitely ask her. 

    Post # 9
    145 posts
    Blushing bee

    valleytine :  definitely ask her!  i think she will be honored to be asked and the wedding is still far enough away, so it doesn’t seem like you are replacing her or anything else.  if the wedding was a month from now – i would say definitely not – but you’re a year out and i  think you will regret not asking her.

    Post # 10
    3884 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2017

    Because your current party is all family, you can even go with something like “I was planning on just sisters and cousins to keep things simple, but I’ve found I can’t my imagine my day without you!” 

    Post # 11
    226 posts
    Helper bee

    valleytine :  If you tell her using the sweet words you’ve written here, I think she’s be touched and delighted! I know I would be! (especially to be included with all family)


    Post # 13
    67 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    brokebee69 :  aw, my fiance’ is shy too! mine don’t match and so far nobody cares!

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