- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
I did a post about this before but this is kinda a new part. I was considering telling one of my bridesmaids before to get out of my wedding. she was giving me a bunch of grief about not ordering her dress and just making a bunch of stark comments about stuff and just generally driving me nuts with stuff. I got over it tho cause she said she was waiting to order her dress till the wedding was closer just in case her size changed. now tho the new issue is she just recently found out shes having twins boys 5 months before the wedding. She already has a 2 yr old son so shes going to have her hands full. i gave her the option to opt out and she said she would have to let me know. she still has to order her dress which would now have to wait till after the birth. problem there is the dresses are being ordered from china and by mid january-mid febuary the seller has chinese new year so wont be working. im afraid if she waits till after that to order she wont get it in time and if something is messed up or needs alterations she wont have enough time to get it. so i told her if shes in she would have to order it probably by the end of december at the latest. however if shes due in mid november that doesnt give her much time to drop the baby weight if she wants. so yeh lots of issues working against each other and i think it would be a lot easier for her to just not be in it but shes been a friend of mine for like 18 yrs and i was in her wedding. anyone know of a nice but caring way i can ask her to step out without hurting her feelings and ruining our friendship?