(Closed) Asking a bridesmaid…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

I would find this a little strange if I were her. How long have the two of you been “estranged” so to speak? It’s one thing if you had a fight and made up shortly after and your friendship just changed a little, but it sounds like there was years in between your fight and your next contact.

I would invite her to the wedding, but hold off on making her a Bridesmaid or Best Man until you’re sure she’s back in your life for good.

Post # 5
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213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I guess my only thought on it would be that it was such a small thing for her to end the friendship due to.  I would hate for you to have her be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and then her not really be as into it as you need her to be.  Being in a wedding can be very stressful on a freindship and it doesnt sound like this one is quite firm enough to withstand the (potential) stress… yet. 

Post # 6
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Captain013: I would not ask  her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man. Only invite to the wedding.

Post # 7
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5655 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

Definitely not a Bridesmaid or Best Man….. wedding planning and Bridesmaid or Best Man requirements/tasks can be straining on even solid friendships. If you asked and she excepted I would expect there to be alot of rising issues btwn things she needed to get/do/attend

I would just invite her and leave it at that…

Remember that even if she’s not part of the party she can help and stuff if she’d like.. if your friendship grew to be more solid and such.

I had a craft day where my BMs and a handful of other girls that were invited to the wedding came… it was great. Another friend that was just invited came in on the Day of and did my hair… she was a LIFE-SAVER….

So… you see that she can still be an awesome friend and help out on wedding stuff even if she’s not a Bridesmaid or Best Man…. this way if your friendship grows she can be awesome, but if it really doesn’t.. there isn’t DRAMA =)

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