- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2015
This is the situation: Me and my two best friends are a total unit, we are every silly girl cliché about that group of girls who have know each other forever and are always together. This is amazing for me, but has made the bridal party a hard topic. One friend, L.H., is organized to a fault, always on time and very traditional, the other, R.B., we call whimsical, she is very new age, and scatterbrained, I’m the one that falls in-between. Its killing me to pick one over the other for Maid of Honor (I reallllly don’t want 2 maids of honors, just one of my quirks). I am leaning towards asking the more traditional friend to be my maid of honor and possibly my more whimsical friend to officiate. I know that L.H. will enjoy the party planning and wedding help that is expected of a Maid of Honor while those tasks would be more tedious for R.B.. The issue here is my fiancée’s family is catholic and they would prefer if we had a full mass for the ceremony which is not going to happen. I’m just worried having a friend officiate is taking it one step further away from the church feeling they want. I don’t want his family to feel offended but neither me or my fiancée is religious. The last option here that my fiancée suggested is do not have a Maid of Honor, have a Matron of Honor instead and ask his sister to step up for the position, she is married and lives closer to me than either of my friends. This way I have someone to help me plan and handle showers and such with out choosing between my friends. Does asking my friend to officiate make up for having my other friend be the Maid of Honor?