(Closed) Asking Bridesmaid to NOT Bring Her Ex?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2616 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

just tell her she wont have time to party with ex because she needs to be helping u with ur wedding..


most of my bms are coming solo to focus on helping me through out the evening making sure im not bride zilla/ or anxiety over load

Post # 4
1810 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think its kind of rude to tell people who and who they can’t bring, and I’m sure he will be far off on your radar on your wedding day because you’l be busy being a bride and all that jazz. I do understand where you are coming from but you can also maybe point out that they’ll be some great single guys there (maybe hopefully?) that she could mingle with without being dragged down by Ex.

Post # 7
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I disagree it’s your day and you can find a way to express to her that you don’t want any drama at your wedding. That is if you are giving her a plus 1.

Post # 8
2869 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My Maid/Matron of Honor has an on-again off-again bf who sounds quite similar.  She and I had an honest discussion about it; since my wedding isn’t for awhile we just based it on “if things were the same as they are now” — we both agreed that she wouldn’t want to have him there, because she would be feeling torn about spending time with him, keeping him company, making sure he wasn’t doing anything stupid, buffering him from others, etc.  Soo luckily we were on the same page, but I know in this case it helps that shes my Maid/Matron of Honor not just a Bridesmaid or Best Man, since she will have additional responsibilities, plus she’s jsut the type of person to be stressing.  So if any of this applies with your Bridesmaid or Best Man, try to just discuss it because she might agree that it’s just not worth the drama and stress!

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