(Closed) Asking bridesmaids by email? Too impersonal?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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197 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

It depends on you, your girls and the type of relationship you have. I’m not engaged, but have been a bridesmaid. I have been asked over the phone and by email and I have to say the email did lack a bit. I don’t think it’s rude or anything, but it means you don’t have that nice moment to get excited together and does feel a bit impersonal on the receiving end.

My suggestion (for what it’s worth) would be to call them first and then follow with an email with all the exciting details.

Post # 4
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478 posts
Helper bee

 I understand the dilemma.  I did a combination.  I sent them an email saying I had something really important to ask them and would call them later (none of us live in the same place), but no pressure!  Since I was getting married, they probably suspected what it was.  So that gave them some time to think about it before I actually asked them over the phone, so not as much putting them on the spot.

Post # 5
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581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think an e-mail would be kinda ehh.  I think an easy fix would be to send them a hand-written letter maybe with one of those will you be my bridesmaid cards from Etsy.  Doesn’t take much more effort, but is a lot more personal!

Post # 7
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581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I just remembered that I’m pretty sure Hallmark has will you be my bridesmaid cards.  Probably cheaper than getting the handmade ones on Etsy. 🙂

Post # 8
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I asked my Maid/Matron of Honor on Facebook messaging. I haven’t asked anyone else yet though. Like another poster said it depends upon you and you girls. 

Post # 9
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879 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would call and tell them they don’t need to decide right away so you don’t put them on the spot. I think email is a bit impersonal, but you know your friends best and what they might prefer. Two of my girls live out of state and I waited until they came to visit to ask them in person. I took each girl out to dinner separately. As someone mentioned, it’s nice to experience the excitement of the situation together.

Post # 10
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338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I heard about all the cute ways to propose to your BMs after proposing to mine. I thought asking them in person was nice. For the ones out of town, I called them. I told him how much they mean to me and how much I would love them to be involved with one of the most important days of my life. I think calling is better than email.

Post # 11
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227 posts
Helper bee

I didn’t know about these cards, but they’re great – thanks for mentioning it! My bridesmaids all live in another country, so sending a note by snailmail could be a sweet way to ask them. 

Post # 14
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67 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 1991

My youngest daughter got engaged a few months ago. I am so lucky to be part of all my daughters weddings. The girls have all used Plum Pretty Sugar robes. My youngest is on a budget and bought Plum Pretty Sugar robes with the Will you be my bridesmaid cards that they offer on their website. She packaged everything pretty and mailed them to the girls. The girls can now also use these for their getting ready photos. She plans on buying them another small gift for the day of but this is an added bonus. It also spreads out expenses. 

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