(Closed) Asking bridesmaids to buy shoes

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldn’t necessarily say “buy a yellow shoe” but maybe “can you try to find a yellow shoe to wear with the dress?” I have a pair of yellow shoes sitting in my closet, and would happily wear them again, maybe some of your girls have pre-existing shoes?

I wouldn’t designate type of shoe beyond fabric unless you’re having a really formal wedding. 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Find a couple of options that match and give them the choice. $-$$$.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2008

depends on the situation – how much money they are spending on dresses, travel, parties, etc.  PErsonally I think enforcing shoe rules is a bit much in most cases – if you do require yellow, then i like your idea of letting them pick their own shoe.  you could always provide a few options to help them out since yellow isn’t the easiest color to find…or you could do silver for something they might be more likely to wear again…

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s tough because there are many different shades of yellow.  I like the suggestion to find a few different options (heel height, price) and let them pick whichever they like the best.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Also I will say if the other expenses aren’t that high for them, just go ahead and pick out some shoes.  For one wedding I had to buy these ugly pearl colored shoes and I left them at the hotel.  At the end of the day I didn’t mind buying them, because it was what my friend wanted (even if they were hideous)!

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

They could also buy inexpensive white shoes and have them dyed yellow… They can then choose the model they feel most comfortable in.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My dresses are brown and I just told my girls to buy gold strappy sandals. I dont really care what they come out looking like! But if I was a bridesmaid I dont know how I would feel about having to buy another item (in addition to the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress) that I would never wear again!

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

i had my girls go to DBridal and buy whatever dyable shoes they wanted. 

i paid for them to be dyed purple ($3 a piece) so they will all be the same shade purple but the type of shoe they like.

they may not wear them again, but at least they got to wear their style shoes for that day and they cant curse ME for them being uncomfortable 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I love the idea of dyeable shoes if your girls are on a budget! They sell them at Payless for really great prices!!

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I like t he idea of sharing the photo with them and let them know that it’s a look you’d like to recreate. i’d also try to find a few options in different price range.

if i were told to just ‘buy a pair of yellow shoes’, i’d  be at a loss of where to start to look!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I gave them some suggestions for colors and asked them what they thought. My bridesmaids are all really easy-going and are cool with whatever I decide (or so they tell me, haha), which has been nice, but I’m still trying not to ask too much of them.Their dresses are green so we decided on silver shoes, and that’s pretty much the only guideline they have. I would feel bad telling them exactly what shoe to buy, and that wouldn’t really work for us anyway. Bridesmaid or Best Man #1 is really into fashion and I want her to be able to pick out whatever shoes she likes (or wear shoes she already owns); Bridesmaid or Best Man #2 doesn’t care either way but could probably find another use for silver shoes, so I want her to pick out her own; Bridesmaid or Best Man #3 never wears dresses or heels and probably won’t wear these shoes again, so I want her to have the option to pick something that’s comfortable and cheap.

If I were you I’d tell them you are thinking about yellow shoes but ask them for their opinion.  Yellow shoes come in so many different shades, and there are such a range in formality, so if they like the idea maybe you could find a few different options for them. For what it’s worth, the blue dress/yellow shoe thing is super cute!

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