Post # 1
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Helper bee
I recently got engaged and I find one of the biggest questions people seem to ask about my ring is “How many carats is it” I’m sure they don’t mean any harm, or mean it to be offensive, but I seem to find it kind of…well…tacky. I am not a competitive person, by any means, so maybe it is just my nature to find such questions offensive. What are your opinions? Maybe it is just the curiosity of new brides, maybe they truly just love your ring, or maybe they are judging it. I guess it depends on who is asking. What do you ladies think?
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
@Merinda1994: IMO it depends on the manner in which they ask. If they ask bc they are interested in that size then no not tacky but if it’s more of “giirrrllll, how many carats is that thang!?” Then yes, tacky
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
I dont mind at all when others ask me. But I would never ask someone how many carats their ring is.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
@Merinda1994: I think it’s a little nosy, although it’s probably just them being curious. I hate to be deceitful, but I just say it’s a gift and I don’t know. I honestly couldn’t imagine asking someone that!
Post # 6
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Helper bee
Exactly! I just could never ask anyone that! Just compliment them, that’s like asking how much you paid for your car lol. Which I guess doesn’t bother some people, but it does me.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
Most if not all carat size questions I received were for competitive reasons IMO.
The tackiest question I received was after someone looked at my ring (inspected it really) was “what does your fiance do?” Really people you are sizing up whether he can afford the ring or went broke getting it.
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
Ah, it depends. If the ring is substantially bigger than usual, I can see someone being like wow how big is that.. but I don’t remember being asked that often.
Post # 9
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Busy bee
I don’t think I’ve every been asked that! I would feel uncomfortable asking that question to someone…I never even asked my sister about hers.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
@Merinda1994: I think it depends on who is asking. I know quite a few people who would ask because they are only interested in the size. Personally, I would much rather have a stone that has great qualities, than a stone thats extremely flawed just because its bigger! Bigger isn’t always better.
Post # 11
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Helper bee
@Daizy914: Exactly, I feel like a lot of people get caught up in finger coverage. I would rather have something I know is in our means and is absolutely beautiful. I’m not trying to impress anyone.
Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
I’ve been asked that just once by FI’s cousin, I trust out of pure curousity. I asked once also, out of shock and awe of my friends gorgeous nicely sized ring. She didn’t seem offended at all and readily shared.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@CurlyCue: wowwww, I can’t believe someone asked you that! I think so many women get caught up in having the biggest and best ring to show off, and forget why that ring is there in the first place; as a symbol of the love between you and your husband.
Post # 14
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Honey bee
It depends. If we’re good friends or if they’re about to get engaged and want to gauge size, then I don’t mind.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
If it is a close friend i don’t think it’s tacky, if it is a stranger or aquaintance then yes!
Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
I think I’ve only asked once, and I meant it as a compliment! Her ring was HUGE! I think 2.5cts? It was the second biggest ring I’d ever seen in person!